Not settling for dad..

Has anyone come out of the other end of this cause I’m feeling trappppppped. It started with baby not relaxing for dad during night wakes. Then naps. Now bedtime…. I do think there is an element of him not trying everything and he does give up / panic quite quickly. but when I take the baby he instantly settles. I get that’s natural but he used to settle for dad. I’ve always done the lions share but dad has helped and baby has settled for him. This is until probably the last few months.. I’m living like baby will snap out of it and encouraging dad to continue trying get him to bed. But just wondering if anyone else has had this - I want to be able to go out without stress :(

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In the same boat! But my partner has just had a week off work and it’s only been a couple of times but she’s started settling for him, which can’t be a coincidence It’s so hard being the person who’s at home with LO all day and then having to be the person who is on call all night as well, but I just try to reason it as I’m doing a good job at being her mum and she knows that

Lots of us going through peak separation anxiety/parental preference at the min 😭

I'm also in this. I kind of love the cuddles though so not complaining x

@Emma yeah tbh I did feel this way until he stopped being able to put him down for naps and bedtime. I work from home so don’t get to get out a ton and now even early evening trip out can’t happen.

@Georgia oh good I’m glad that started to help! I’m facing two weeks of my partner doing night shifts so I sadly can’t see that helping.

If I was you, I would go out tonight whilst baby is awake, about 10 minutes before the start of bedtime wind down (even if you just go sit in the car) and let dad do all bedtime. If it takes longer, it takes longer. my partner isn’t the greatest at doing bedtime, and freaks out after 5/10 minutes, but if I leave him to it, he can do it, just takes him longer xx

@Storme yeah I defo think not being around at all would help. Sadly he’s on nights now for two weeks 🤪🤪 will try after that!

Awww no! My partner works til 11 most nights, so I feel you! It’s hard working doing it by yourself all the time xxx

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