Bedtime help

I have a 19 month old and now a 1 week old baby, I'm wondering how do I do bedtime routine for both of them? My toddler usually takes a long bath around 6:20pm than bedtime but it takes him a while to fall asleep, sometimes he just fall asleep at 8pm 😰
Usually my husband is here to help so he is doing his bedtime, I have no idea how to do on the days he won't be able to be home in time, but even than I usually participate of his bathtime, so the newborns haven't had a bath at home yet, I'm wondering how do I plan their routine, like should I pit the nb to sleep earlier? In that case I bring the toddler with me for that? Or do I hold the nb awake during the toddler bathtime and just do his bath after like around 7pm (on the days my husband is here)
If you could tell me how do you do l, I'm trying to imagine the possibilities to decide what to do 🙈

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Hey!! I have a 18 month old and a 12 week old. Been navigating this for almost 3 months☺️ I usually put newborn in a “container” like a rocker or swing while I give my toddler a bath, brush teeth, all the things. Check on newborn, feed if needed and turn on some music and give my toddler some books to read, or I put on Bluey while I feed the baby. Once baby is settled and in a safe place (bassinet, swing) I put my toddler to bed. I do this for toddler naps too.

Some times it works out great, sometimes I can hear my newborn crying in the other room while I put my toddler down. Mom guilt is no joke, but if you know there got a clean butt, their tummy is full, and they are safe, they are going to be okay while you care for your first baby🤍

Not in this phase anymore, but I just brought the baby in the bathroom with my toddler. Let her be in a little rocker or portable bassinet and then I would bathe the toddler. After the baby was old enough to bathe at home, I put her in the bath and bathed them both at the same time.

I used to have my LG in a boucer or just outside the bathroom door if she was asleep.
Now they have a bath together. 20-month gap.

I'm going to be in your same situation in 2 months from now 😬

I have a 22 month old and 4 month old (18 month gap) and it took me until last week to feel “more confident” with this. My 4 month old goes to bed first and then my toddler follows on. I bring my son along and get him to help with my daughter’s bedtime. I feed her in his bedroom and he plays etc while I’m feeding her. Then I put her down and start with his bedtime as she drifts off to sleep. It was a game changer for me when my youngest learnt to fall asleep independently, until then you kind of wing it and do the best you can. I always said as long as everyone is safe, that’s all we can do

Mine need me one on one at bedtimes. It’s a huge bonding time for us and their time to feel special. So when I put my youngest down, I put on Miss Rachel for my older daughter to distract her. And when I have to put my older one down and there’s no one home, I put my youngest in a playpen. My older child regressed and had a lot of tantrums when my youngest was born, so one on one time has become crucial to her development and still feeling important. Mine are 19 months apart.

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Hour night wakes and 5am get up

Can anyone shed some light as to why on earth my child doesn’t want to sleep??? My eyeballs are bleeding!!

Never been a good sleeper, but the problems always changing. He’s nearly 9 months old.

Beginning of the month he dropped to 2 naps. We could put him to bed at 7pm and he’d get up for the day at 6am, with multiple wake ups every 2/3 hours.

Now we put him down at 7pm, he can do a good 4/5 hour stretch, but come 1/2am he’s up every hour then getting up for the day at 5am. This then completely messes up the day because I can’t keep him awake long enough to even get to 7pm, let alone later.

He has 2 naps, roughly about 1hr10 each but it changed based on when he wakes and trying to get him to a reasonable bed time.

What could be the reason for this? 6am is fine, but 5am is not 😩😩

Help! First time mum -

I have a 4 month old and now all of a sudden when he’s been asleep for 1hr30/2hrs he will wake up screaming (high pitched) I’ve tried winding him sometimes that helps, I’ve tried bicycle legs & bringing his knees up but that doesn’t seem to help but he brings his knees up himself sometimes but nothing happens. I’ve noticed since the 4 month mark he has started to struggle passing wind downwards! Any tips?

Don’t want to leave my first born😭😭😭

Anyone else extremely sad and anxious to leave their first born😭

He’s 2 and we have never not put him to bed or be here for when he wakes up😭

I’m so sad and anxious about leaving him

Help meeee

!!All advice welcome!! My 5 month old (nearly 6mo) is just not sleeping . Not for naps and not at night . She can’t connect her cycles . We started sleep regression at 3 months but in like how is this nearly been going on for a further 3 months . Like surely not . She has 10 min naps in crib ( which take so much effort ) and maybe 20/30 min naps in my arms/pushchair . She wakes minimum every hour at night with guaranteed false start 20 mins in . I combo feed. I breastfeed her until almost asleep then place her in the next to me crib give her the pacifier and put my hand on her cheek/face for 20 seconds and she drifts off . It’s not really getting her to sleep that’s the issue it’s she just won’t stay asleep . She doesn’t even need to feed much at night usually 1-2 breastfeeds . The rest is comfort wakes needing her pacifier or my hand on her cheek . I’ve looked into sleep associations and independent sleep and I broke the feed to sleep association and rocking and do bedside comforting instead for most wakes which has now lead to my hand being a sleep association on her face . I’m just so exhausted my husband is working mon-fri 9-9 and it’s just me . I haven’t had more than 4 hours in a row since her birth . I can’t get anything done during the day . She is so clingy and cries if I leave room /put her down etc. I love her so much but we both need rest . If anyone has any tips or a routine that could help PLEASE tell me I’ll try anything 🥲❤️❤️

Feeding to sleep

FTM here! 👋

Are you guys feeding your baby to sleep?

I just read feeding to sleep is creating bad habit and baby will always cry etc when awake at night expecting to get bottle before falling asleep again. 🤔
It said should feed the baby, give a bath (or not) and then put to sleep.
I do other way around - bath, pjs/lotion, rock to sleep and feed at the same time and then baby falling asleep.
Am I creating a bad habit? Been doing it all the time really. 😳

Feeds

How many times a night are your little ones getting up? My daughter is every 90-110 minutes. I am absolutely exhausted and don’t know how much more I can cope