Back to work

My baby goes to daycare tomorrow. I don’t go back to work until Wednesday but I wanted to give both of us time to adjust. I’ve randomly burst into tears multiple times this weekend.

I was supposed to go back last Monday, I broke down and used a week of my PTO to have more time with my LO. Now I have to go in tomorrow and it’s absolutely killing me. I practiced all week with leaving him with his grandma and going out of the house (groceries, laundry, ect) but would feel guilty the whole time. It feels a little better knowing he’s spent basically the whole week with her and they’re both comfortable but it still feels hard :(

Uhg my babe is going to daycare tomorrow and I'm going back on Tuesday. This is my second baby and I still feel like I'm going to die 😭 I'm doing half days all week which help the transition. Is that an option for you? I will tell you that it gets easier. Being a mom is so hard. Being a working mom is SO hard.

My first day is Tuesday and I’m losing it to be honest. 12 weeks is just not enough and I know I’m one of the lucky ones to even get that in the US. Mine is having to go into daycare full time and I’m honestly so helplessly pissed about it

Reading you guys comments is so sad 😞 wish this country had a long maternity leave

@Katie same this is my 2nd and It’s not easier at all. I wish I could do half days because I think that would help a lot

I feel this too! I go back next week and idk how I feel. I took 12 weeks as it is the maximum I am entitled to but they have been unpaid. My sweet husband told me to take all 12 so I could be with my baby longer and he will fully take care of all bills. Its been hard to not work financially so I have to work. I also hold all our benefits for us so it’s hard for me to quit. I have left him with people and gone out to errands, appointments or even shortly with a friend. I don’t feel too bad because I know he is cared for and well loved but I do wish I didn’t have to leave him to go work 😭

@Cecilia this country needs better healthcare system and the ability to thrive on a single income (for us married/coupled ladies). In my case, my whole leave has been unpaid and I feel forced to go back to work so I can give my baby everything he needs and keep my house afloat. If formula, diapers and freaking groceries and utilities weren’t so expensive, my husband would be able to cover everything for us. But they also make it hard to even have good healthcare outside of a work plan because its all based on income. Like most of us can pay 800-1k a month for health insurance. Its all ridiculous. I am a teacher and I have pretty good benefits but im having to pay almost 4k for dental procedures because my insurance covers half only, copays at every appointment, medicine never covered, or barely covered, and I was responsible for my premiums while on leave. On top of that we don’t qualify for any assistance because I make too much money 🤦🏼‍♀️ it’s all ridiculous and we can do bettet!!

This topic is the main reason I got onto this app. I have about a month left of leave and I cry whenever I think about leaving my baby at daycare. She will be 14 weeks. How do people do this and stay away from their baby all day 😭

@Dara I was lucky to get 12 weeks as well, 100% paid by my company.

Wow I feel HEARD. I start in 3 weeks in I’m very anxious too ! Idk how I’ll feel when that time comes. Plus I micro manage ! Idc what anyone thinks - I want things done specifically.

Follow up. Make sure you put on your calendar the date you go back….i was supposed to be back yesterday. Oops. I thought the 25th was today so I just kept thinking Wednesday. Luckily HR was fine and just out in for PTO for me yesterday but I feel dumb.