Struggling

Is anyone else struggling more now than in the newborn days? Maybe I’m looking back at the newborn days with rose tinted glasses, but my god does this age feel hard! My little girl is at a stage where she is getting very frustrated, she clearly knows what she wants but can’t communicate it, and I can’t understand so I’m getting frustrated back. I feel like she is constantly whinging, she’s also started fighting naps and screaming when she’s put down. She seems to be always ill, I think she’s also developed reflux / got worse so is being sick so often (she’s always been a sicky baby but now its food it’s worse!). I’m back at work full time over 4 days so I have one day a week at home with her and honestly at the moment I’m not enjoying that day! I find between her meals and her nap routine we struggle to get out the house much, I find myself just staying in because it’s easier. Plus with her always being ill recently I feel bad socialising with other babies / soft plays! Then add in the mental load of trying to do everything else, work, clean, cook, tidy, wash, be present with her to play and engage, keep fit, eat healthy, respond to friends messages, keep my relationship going- it all just feels so much to cope with. I thought it was supposed to get easier, but I’m honestly finding this stage so difficult 😞 I often wish I could go back to the newborn days when all she did was sleep and drink milk, but then I feel awful for saying that 😔

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I hear you, although I hugely struggled in the newborn days and felt so angry at people who said the newborn stage was easy and who seemed to breeze through it, as I did not have an easy newborn and so on the whole I am enjoying this stage a bit more but it d definitely comes with a whole new set of struggles, like you just outlined. I’ve found this amazing book and I’m only 7 chapters in (I’m listening to the audio book, as obviously have no time to read!) but I’ve really found it a massive help. It’s called ‘Motherkind’ by Zoe Blaskey

I could have wrote this myself!! everything you have mentioned is the exact same as me, I find this age so much harder than when my little girl was newborn. She used to be a great sleeper 7pm-7am when she was about 6 months old but now we’re back up for night feeds, she fights near enough every nap and bed time. She sometimes goes to bed around 9pm after fighting her sleep for ages. I feel so overwhelmed at times as I feel no matter what I do I’m always behind on housework etc, I’m definitely finding it harder now than I ever have. I try to remind myself everything is a phase and will pass x

Never have a read a post so accurate! I can resonate with this massively, my 13 month old is very, very fiery. I feel like I can’t catch a break. I work 40hrs across 5 days and when I have her at home she is so moody and consistently ill so rather than enjoying the weekends with her, I’m instead trying to get her better 😩 No one talks about this enough ! X

I’m in the same boat and the illnesses are relentless! I am exhausted all the time and don’t feel like a break is a thing anymore! Totally feel you ❤️

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