Middle name disagreement

James is a nice middle name

I don’t think the middle name is a massive deal so would give him this one, especially if he doesn’t actually want his first name as the middle name! Plus is seems like a family tradition which is cute!

I mean if you are okay with the baby not having a middle name at all I think there wouldn’t be a difference to just let him have the middle name James you don’t have to call him that you always just call the baby by the first name and the middle name is literally just on paper and it makes your bf happy

Ahhh how frustrating! If he's telling everyone, he definitely knows you're going to budge - are you usually a pushover with things? It seems like he's taking advantage.. This is just me being petty, but if he's not married or engaged to you, as you said bf, I'd be saying baby's lucky to have his last name and middle name is pushing it 🤣

My son has my partners surname so I wanted to have something from my family and wanted his middle name to be my dads name and my partner agreed it was fair as he already had his family name. Won’t he come to some agreement at all that is very fustrating x

My son has 2 middle names as one his dad wanted him to have and one that I wanted.

This was me and my partner for baby's FIRST name! FIRST name!!😂 It can be very frustrating! But, let me just be petty a bit and tell you what I did 😂 Just because I have finally found a place to lift this off my chest! 🫣 I don't recommend it though. So, He insisted on a name I don't like, my family, his family, we all don't like. But he kept insisting and was telling everyone. Even went ahead to be filling it in some (nonofficial) forms. I realised he wasn't budging, and he was low-key feeling I would accept. Multiple times, I asked him let's resolve, he ignored. Luckily, I was the one who booked appointment for name registration, passport, GP, Infact, all the official registrations 😂 On the day, I asked him one last time for us to resolve, he ignored. I went ahead and put HIS FIRST name as BABY'S FIRST name! 😂🫣🏃‍♀️ he managed to go back to the birth certificate and baptism card to attach the one he wanted, which I didn't argue because mine is in front and very official, and I like the name 😂🫣🫣

My first boy is named after my husband, and my second is named after his father. Both his choices, and since they are boys, I felt it was more special for my husband. I also come from a family with traditional names for boys, so I understood how important it was for my husband, and ultimately, that mattered more than picking a random name I liked for my boys. I hope to have a girl and he has no problem with me picking the name which I already have her name picked out (it was my mom's favorite name, she never got to use it tho). He doesn't like that it's a southern name (two first names), but he knows how important it is for me, so he's okay with it. So I think you have to decide what's more important for you, having control over your sons middle name or making your husband happy. It obviously matters a great deal to him, and being a family name, it's even more important. And if he's the first grandson, then it's even more important for him.

Not sure if you’re planning on having more kids, but we basically agreed to each choose a middle name for our kids. Our first son got his dad’s family middle name (same as your son - the middle name of his dad and grandpa) and our second son got my (deceased) dad’s first name as his middle name which I chose. That way we both have a special attachment to one of the middle names. For me a middle name is a nod to family which I really like.

My sons middle name is after my grandad. My husband agreed that this name was perfect for him as my grandad meant the world to me and I was his carer for the last few months of his life so he spent a lot of time with my son. They were the best of friends. I'm currently pregnant with my second, if it's another boy, he will have my dad's name as his middle name and if it's a girl, she will have my sisters name as her middle name. Both children have my husbands surname to take from his family so he wants my family in there too so middle names it is. My niece also has the same middle name as me 🥰