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I feel your frustration! The first few weeks I felt this way but I spoke with my husband about it. He’s very understanding and encourages me to get out of the house on my own, he paid for a massage and facial when I was 1month postpartum, I got invited to a friend’s party and he asked his mom to watch the baby while I went and he was at work. Depending on your relationship, a simple conversation could help. Sometimes women want for men to read our minds but unfortunately they can’t, we gotta spell it out for them. As if we need more mental load! But it is what it is. Talk to your partner and see what changes. That’s my suggestion. As for the last name, I also took on my husband’s last name so we could all have the same name. Here in the US a second last name is useless most of the time but its all preference! Hope it gets better!
@Nicole I’m so sorry to hear this. I wish I had just gone with my gut and given my baby my last name… I did pick out the middle name but middle names aren’t as significant you know? my baby got his last name before me, like what??
@Noemi Nunez thank you, your partner sounds like a keeper. Will have to talk to him about it
Thanks! Definitely talk to him love. Some men aren’t good at reading our needs unfortunately. Make sure he knows what you need so he can give you the support you need!! Good luck ❣️
I think the last name thing generally comes from women used to marry and take the husbands name before having babies in most cases or would be marrying soon so they all have the same name. My daughter has both mine and the fathers name because we're not married however I wish I'd given her just my name because he is no longer in the pictures in any capacity. Some men are brilliant dads and make sure the mums have their time and help and show up for the kids. The ones who don't change at all after becoming a dad I don't think should be dads. I used to get so mad at how little my partner helped but he'd promise the world and deliver nothing