Visitors after baby arrives

Hey 👋🏻 this is our first baby and I am already worrying about navigating visitors after the baby arrives. Wondering if anyone has past experience, or how long you waited before having people over? I want enough time as a family before letting the grandparents in!

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I think it depends on how close you are with family and friends! With my first we had multiple people per day visit for the first few weeks and it honestly shattered me! Lack of sleep and meals and recovering post birth, as well I was also breastfeeding and there were days that my boob was just out most of the day which I was uncomfortable with people seeing at the beginning as I was just getting used to it! I think this time round we will only let parents and siblings visit in the first week and then give ourselves a few weeks before letting any extended family or friends call round!

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i allowed visitors in the hospital (just family and a close friend who supported me and my
husband through pregnancy!) i felt more comfortable doing it that way because if anything you can have the nurses enforce time limits and rules like washing hands. i found it hard as a first time mom to find my voice so having the nurses there really helped out a lot

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We didn’t have anyone for 3 weeks with our daughter and it was so lovely. I would recommend saying you’ll let people know when you’re ready, rather than committing to anything now. It might be that you want people around straight away or you might prefer to wait. That way you can see how you feel when you’re in the moment, if people don’t understand then that says a lot about them 🫶 I think especially if you’re planning to breastfeed it can be nice to at least have a few days to get to grips with that and not have to worry about visitors and covering up etc xx

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With my first I went to others houses less than 48hrs after having baby, not my family the dads family I didn’t really want to just kind of happened. 2nd time round I will be waiting a few weeks if my close family want to pop in that’s fine but not having everyone round for hours or going to other houses this time

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I’m planning on keeping the arrival of my baby a secret for as long as I can (probably won’t be longer than a week)

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Think it just depends on how your family is. We had visitors the day she was born and constant company the first 3 weeks. Didn’t have and issues and hubby got plenty of skin to skin. Just go with your gut. If you want space just ask for it. People should understand

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