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I can 100% understand your frustration, My partner lost his job last April i had our baby end of june, he didn't go back into a job until about 5 weeks ago!! He spent everyday wanting to game, he's also a bad weed smoker, seems like he can't do anything until he's smoked a joint it's all he thinks about his game and his joints! I've got ours the bath before to our baby screaming thinking my partners tried and can't calm him only to walk in to baby laid on my partners knees and him sat on his game while babies cried for past 15 mins!! He's now working but he works away, 2 weeks at a time, weekend off, then back for 2 weeks. He starts work at 8am finishes no later than 5pm then has all night to do what he wants while working away, he goes swimming in hotel pool, plays pool with another lad he's with, goes out for food sleeps the whole night, then when he comes home he expects to do the same, moans he wants to go out with his mates, says he needs a sleep in cos he's been working away,
doesn't do any night feeds or anything sits on his game and smokes when he wants, I actually messaged him yesterday and said i'm really struggling being on my own so much our babies only just started sleeping for long stretches the past few days but he's up at 6:30 every morning and still doesn't go sleep until about 10pm, he contact naps during day even tho av tried everything to stop this so i can't get anything done i can't even get a bath/ shower unless i ask someone to come and watch him for me while i do this. I've been in mum mode 24/7 for past nearly 8 months, i can't even leave my baby with his dad because he's incapeable of anything, we have another on the way (stupid i know) and it was the gender reveal sunday i left baby with him while i went to pick up some cupcakes for the reveal, within 6 mins of leaving house he's ringing me telling me to hurry up etc cos baby was being wingey but he was refusing to try anything if told him to try to cheer him up. Some men are immature
Having a gamer husband myself, I can absolutely understand your frustration and resentment when you feel like being the primary parent is your only job now when you’re so much more than that. What my husband has learned is that he’s not doing me a favour taking care of our child, it’s HIS child too. 50/50. And it’s responsibility to take action and be there for both of your child. Sadly when you decided to have a baby, you have to remember to be selfless and give that time you once had for you, to them and to each other. He is being selfish in all the wrong ways and needs to realise you too deserve a huge amount of time for relaxing as well. He knew what he was getting himself in for and needs to grow up. Approach it as “I feel” and get him to relate to you as much as you are for him. It’s time he steps up and gives YOU a chance to relax.