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I feel your pain sister. I have been in your shoes before and I can only share the very person who helped me and set me free completely. Jo temporary fixes. I don't know if you're a Christian but Jesus himself spoke these words; “Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” Matthew 11:28-30 KJV I can mention therapy, trying to take a trip separately to feel that void of each other and miss each other again. Or a trip together yada yada but none of that stuff will suffice. I would love to pray with you if you so desire you can inbox me. Regardless I pray that the Lord will encounte you and your situation and meet you at the point of your needs. May he bring light and hope to your marriage and family, may he allow His Holy Spirit to comfort and help you through your difficult time
And may the God of love whobsent His only begotten Son to take away all our suffering and pain by being sacrificed on the cross demonstrate His agape love to you by sending His angels, destiny helpers, just open your heart and allow Him to come in and you will experience His peace that surpasses all human understanding regardless of what your situation may look like. His truth is in His words the Bible. Praying for you sis, love and light to you and your family ❤️🙏🏾✨
You can't make life decisions based on other people's feelings or saying that they might help. Your decision to become parents falls on you and your husband only. You're not entitled to help from family just because it's family or even because they said they would help at some point. (I'm not saying this as a diss, I just have a mindset of no matter how much I help other people, I'm not entitled to their help because most people don't tend to stick to their word and I would end up disappointed anyways.) Emotional blackmail only works if you let it. Move to where you want. Raise your kids the way you want. I'm sorry you guys are feeling overwhelmed. I understand, parenting is rewarding but hard. I hope you guys start to get into a groove and things get better.
To add.. Blaming your parents for not helping with kids that aren't theirs and calling them lazy for it will not help. Maybe putting the kids in daycare would work better for you guys? But you've got to get to the root of the issue and start developing routines with the kids because moving away won't change the overwhelming feelings and it will still be 24/7, just in a different area.
I am so sorry. This is terrible. I don’t know when it will get better but it’s got to. Do you have any good friends or any family members you could call and ask to help with the kids for even a weekend? Even just a day for you and your husband to do something alone together and reconnect. Break the cycle of monotany. Remember again why you’re together. It really does take a village and it’s really shitty that none of your parents will help out, but maybe someone else will. Sometimes you just have to ask for help from a friend.