First time genuinely thinking about rehoming my dog

I have a super sweet well behaved 3 year old mini (46lbs, her dad was a true mini) labradoodle. Her only struggles are jumping on people which she's almost stopped doing, and rarely getting into trash. She'll pick up stuff that's easily accessible in the house like empty ziploc bags or whatever but only when home alone. She hasn't dumped the trash in over a year since today. The only reason for this is my husband NEVER crates her when he leaves the house. She rarely exhibits destructive behavior when not alone, which is why I always crate her. I feel like I can't trust him to ever crate her. Today there was that absorbant gell at the bottom of meat packets in the trash and thankfully i found it in a pile of vomit. I don't want her destructive behavior to cause harm to herself or my husband's dog as I feel like he would blame my dog and not himself. I genuinely don't know what to do and it makes me sad not feeling like I can trust him to be responsible and that my impending solution is rehoming. I'm a SAHM so 90% of the time I'm the one that leaves the house empty and therefore she's keneled 90% of the time.

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Girl, please don’t do that to your fur baby. You’re their person… Your husband needs to stop being a child about it and crate her. I’m sure you have spoken to him and I would insert if he keeps doing this and she gets hurt HE IS FULLY RESPONSIBLE for paying that vet bill without a fuss. It is not fair for you to give up your dog for his negligence! He should be the one cleaning up her mess since he can’t crate her too!! Just please don’t do that to your baby….

I don't want to get to the point where he is responsible. I would feel irresponsible for allowing that to happen. He claims his version of love is not crating a dog and so he never, NEVER thinks of putting her in a crate. Like it doesn't ever cross his mind to do it. Not like he's actively trying to keep her uncrated

Maybe get a better garbage can? Or put it under the sink in a cupboard so that the dog can’t access it if you’re worried about that. But also your husband needs to learn how to take care of the dog responsibly and if she needs to be crated when you leave the house that’s just a rule your husband has to learn to follow.

Not trying to be rude but that doesn’t make any sense. When you’re married everything inside the home should be everyone’s responsibility including animals… if he loved her, he would do what’s best for the puppy and so should you by making him responsible for his actions. The way I see it loving your animals is taking care of them and the best way to do it is by protecting them (crating them). If you really don’t want to rehome your dog then find a different way too.

@Jill i guess I was too emotionally caught up in the absolute ridiculousness and sadness that is my husband to think of this. I understand this is not a relationship advice group so thank you for the obvious alternative. At least now if he leaves her uncrated she'll just destroy things and not eat bad stuff. She only consumes food items so I'm not worried about her swallowing anything dangerous.

A kennel is a safe space for a dog where they can relax and sleep. Train them properly and the dog will love their kennel

@Lena i think you may misunderstand. My dog loves her kennel. She goes in there to nap quite frequently. It's my husband that doesn't like putting her in it and thus he who needs the training to use it for the dog

So I’m a dog trainer by profession, I’m not the biggest advocate of keeping a dog in a crate for extended periods of time; HOWEVER other than that, crates are amazing, especially when a dog is properly crate trained & doesn’t have major anxiety over being inside it. I’d try explaining that unless the dog is crated for extended periods of time there’s literally no harm in it. Puppy’s need upwards of 19 hours of sleep in a day, and as adults they still need 13-15 hours of sleep per day. Short bursts of being crated whenever it’s necessary for managing the safety of everyone involved & your house; is not y’all being evil.

Well, then he’s just gonna have to deal with the repercussions of not putting the dog away. If it’s an ongoing issue that he knows about and he knows your dog benefits from the crate yet he actively chooses not to put the dog there then whatever happens happens and that’s on him. You deserve to have your dog, you do everything that you need to, if he’s not willing to help be a part of the solution then he can deal with the problem. But don’t get rid of your dog, if your dog is well behaved and benefits from the crate and the things that you choose to do then it’s the partner not your dog.