Probably it’s me

I’m so tired I feel like I’m the only one in the relationship that cares about clean house, clean clothes, having the kids ready for school, sleep on time and wake them up. My husband goes to bed at 4am obviously he is tired but he is not going to sleep because he works graveyard shifts, but because he “works” on a project but he usually is surfing in Facebook, posting and replying about politics, faith topics and so on. So he is awake and then obviously he is tired in the morning, and then he wakes up and he keeps being on the phone. I really feel left out. When I ask him to do something I need to say please, I feel bad to ask him please because I feel it’s his responsibility to help. He is unemployed right now, so he is not doing much, he is applying some jobs but it’s not always, also he just surfs on the internet for 30 minutes or maybe less, he doesn’t find anything and then he is distracted by social media. He takes our kids to school but he goes back to sleep. I feel tired, I feel depressed and alone, I feel like he is a third child that I cannot tell anything because he gets offended. I am a stay home mother that doesn’t have any career and I’m scared to start something, I want to be there with my kids all the time they need me and also I don’t want to inyectó with other people. So I feel I can’t leave him because I don’t see a better future ahead.