did anyone have their mum in the room whilst giving birth?

Hey, my mum and partner was there when I gave birth last week! But it’s your choice lovely xx

@Levina congrats!! 🩷 was it nice having her there? i feel like it would be lovely but at the same time idk if i’d feel uncomfortable🤣xxx

If you have a good relationship with your mom I don’t see why not. I would have had my mom with me if she didn’t have to watch my other little one. It’s how you feel. If you want her there then of course go for it !

I only had my husband there and I am SO glad. My mum and I are very close, however it was the most vulnerable time for me and at times, I just wanted to completely relax/sleep/do whatever I wanted basically, and my husband is the person I can do that with without any pressure at all!

I didn’t have my mum there. Just my partner. Also depends on ur relationship. I rarely speak to my mum however I have friends who ring their mum just to say good night. If my mum was there she would just be sat there acting like a midwife and thinking she’s a know it all, everyone’s relationship is different so if u feel close enough to her for her to be there then that fine but if u want it to be an intimate moment between u and ur partner then that’s fine too

I was really glad I had my mum there. There’s comfort that a mum can bring that a partner can’t. Especially as she’ll have been through the same thing. Honestly when you’re giving birth you don’t care who’s seeing what. X

Nope, we don’t have that kind of relationship, it’s not a position I’d want her to see me in

It depends on the relationship you have with your mum. If you’re super close and would be comfortable having her seeing you at your most vulnerable and she will be 100% supportive or your techniques and birth choices then go for it. My husband is the only person I feel is that person for me and I wanted it to just be us

Yes my mum was there when I was pushing along with my partner but when I had to go to theatre ( for forceps) only my partner was allowed. Although my mum stayed until I was in recovery and she came to met my baby girl. I was happy to have my mum there. She didn’t get to experience it with my siblings x

I would have loved to but only one person was allowed in theatre.

@Bec came here to say this. My mum really wants to be there, but I ended up telling her in January that I wasnt sure, just not 100% that I will be able to completely relax. So I havent closed off on my mum being there, but she will happily come if I feel I need her but theres no pressure now that I have talked to her about it which has made me feel a lot more relaxed

For both of mine I juts had my husband first time round I didn't have a choice as it was covid times and second time round I didn't want to chose between mum and mother in law so just had my husband again and was nice to not too many people in the room

You do what you feel most comfortable with, I was wanting my partner and mum but my mums in a different country but after having just my partner it felt so much more private and I will be doing it again with my next x

Mum and husband were both there, it was our first baby snd while my husband gave me all the strength i needed, where he fell short because he didn’t know what next, my mum was with me. whether it be feeding me, giving me water, giving me emotional support, and just giving me love my labour was long, it meant that my husband could get some rest for a little bit i couldn’t have done it without either of them, im my husbands girl but will always be my mummy’s girl first!

I’m having my husband and older sister at my second birth, my first was during Covid and my husband only just arrived while I pushed, he’s quite squeamish and I feel better knowing I’ll have her there to help advocate for me as she’s had two babies herself. (My mums having my 3.5year old or would have been an option) x

My first baby i had my mum and my husband (now divorced) My second was just my mum (thats when husband became ex) This baby i will have my mum and my boyfriend My mum is my best friend and i cant imagine going through labour without her with me, shes my safe zone x

It depends on your relationship with your mom. Define for yourself what kind of support you need during labour and discuss it with your mom if she can give you what you need. After all, you are the main person who decides on who will be in the delivery room, your comfort is on the first place.

@lauren🧚‍♀️ thank you ❤️ it was nice having her there she was very supportive and got me through it. And I loved the fact she got to see her grandchild come into the world. But everyone is different.. maybe have her there and if you feel uncomfortable ask if could kindly wait outside! Explain to her before the birth xxx

My mum was with me for my birth although it wasn’t planned (she visited and stayed as baby was near)! She actually left the room for the actual moment of birth as it was too much for me mentally and it was a suction cup episiotomy with lots of medical people in the room She really helped calm me and help count during contractions with my husband. It was very bonding and emotional for her too, You could always ask your mum step outside during labour for example if you need to poo, tmi but happens to many mums I hear!

My mum asked but I said no . She doesn’t have a calming effect on me and we aren’t that close . But if your mum is very supportive then I’d say go for it x

My mum was there as was my partner. Having my mum there really helped and she campaigned for me and pushed for things my partner would have no clue about 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

My mom passed away along time ago or I would've definitely had her there. I had my husband and one of my sisters. I loved having my sister there she new exactly how to take care of me. I could have her get anything I needed while my husband stayed by my side.

I think if you’re not sure then don’t. Labour and birth is kinda stressful and I wouldn’t want someone in there that I wasn’t 100% sure about

Is there reasons in mind as to why you wouldn’t want her in the room with you? I actually asked my mum to be there with me and my partner, They both helped me in different ways, I thought it was nice to have someone close to me with birth experience too, No matter how much she wants to be in the room, it’s 100% up to you if you want her in the room or to visit after, you want to be comfortable, that being said I’ve never known anyone to regret having there mum in the room x

I had my mum & partner at my first labour and honestly couldn’t have done it without my mum. My mum not only kept me calm but also my husband which was a great help as I wasn’t able to be his support system 😂 also she loved being involved and being one of the first to see her grandchild so it was pretty magical looking back despite it not feeling magical at all! And when I had my second if I could’ve switched my husband out for my mum I totally would’ve! It was only due to having the opposite sex and me wanting my husband to see his first son born that insisted my mum stayed with out firstborn 🤣

yes! and thank god my mom was there because i couldn’t have done it without her. if u had asked me before my son if my mom would be in the delivery room i would’ve told u heck no but my mom just happened to be visiting me when it was time to push since i started miraculously dilating so quickly and seriously god did that on purpose. i would’ve never considered it had it not happened and now im sad she can’t be in the delivery room this time around.

Would have loved to have my mom with me, but she was on the other side of the country. I had my husband and sister.

My mother was there when I gave birth 15 weeks ago and every day she will say it was the best day of her life and is always telling the baby 🩷 I went into hospital at 6am and gave birth just before 10pm and my mother and my partner took it in turns to stay with me throughout the day until it came to business then they both stayed. I found it an absolute godsend to have two people as I didn’t feel like the pressure was just on one of them to help me. I’m so grateful my mother was there 🩷 (in addition to my partner obviously) x

Yes my mom was there all the time

I couldn't imagine having anyone but my husband there during the most vulnerable experience of my life. You don't owe anyone access to your childbirth!

@Rachel i can’t actually think of a reason! my partner would be useless i think (he’ll throw up at the sight of any blood or sh*t if i push too hard🤣) whereas my mum would be really supportive! i just didn’t think it was common at all for mum to be there but looks like it is!! xx

thanks all for your comments! i didn’t realise it was so common🩷

I’m a solo mum so my mum was my birthing partner, even if I was with my baby’s dad or he was there my mum would have been there too. She’s just very good in high stress situations, I wouldn’t wanna do labour or c section without her.

My mam & partner were both in with my first child, my mam was better than my midwife to be fair🤣 midwife was super quiet the whole time I was actively pushing, apart from keep checking babies heart rate etc, whereas with every single push my mam was getting closer and closer into the pool to have a look (water birth)🤣