No more children

My husband doesn’t want anymore children 3 was a possibility and we would see how we feel after the second. He is now saying he doesn’t want anymore children and thinks I’m “deluded” that I want more. I have two boys and always dreamed of having a little girl (please no hate, just how I envisioned my family). I don’t know what to do. Anytime anyone announces their pregnancy I’m so jealous, especially if they’re having a girl. I always wanted to experience raising both boys and girls. I don’t know how to get over not having the family I envisioned. I’m worried I’m going to grow to resent my husband. I just don’t see how you can regret having a child. Money isn’t a problem so it’s not that, he just says no more. I’m gutted, don’t know how to get past it. Any advice welcome please.

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I’m really sorry to hear that. Is he open to a discussion? Is he a good dad? If this is something you feel strongly about he should be open to it, a relationship is about compromise and putting your partners needs as the same priority as yours. However the advice I’ve been given is that going from 2 to 3 kids is a massive jump 😆

Nope, not open for discussion. He is a good dad but he has a demanding job and feels that he can’t give the time he wants to the children he has already because of work so why would he want more. His point is completely valid, it really is but this is going to be short lived. I feel like I support him in everything he wants to do and having a big family is something I’ve always wanted. Why I can’t I have that

How old are your 2 children? My husband is a bit like this, he envisioned a full on football team/army of children and then when we had our second he was like “NEVER AGAIN!” But he flip flops on the idea and our 2 are still very young (2 & 1) so I know we’re still very much in the early stages. Another factor is his age, he’s hit 40 since we had our second and is definitely feeling his age alongside his physically demanding full time job so I can totally see why he wouldn’t want ANOTHER baby right now but I know in a couple of years if we didn’t do it he’d regret it! I used to wonder why people left such massive age gaps but having 2 under 2 I totally get it! I myself want a good break from it all but I’m definitely not “done”!

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