am I wrong for not wanting to kiss my partner with a cavity

so my fiancé has had a cavity for at least six months now. i’m constantly asking him when he plans to get it taken care of and it’s always a bs answer. hygiene is BIG for me esp oral hygiene. the longer we’ve been together the more i’ve noticed the lack of care he has toward his personal hygiene (i’ve literally had to remind him to wash his butt in the shower) and it really grosses me out and turns me off. I am not kissing him or letting him go down on me as long as he has this untreated cavity. am I wrong?
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Idt there’s a right or wrong that’s a personal choice a preference. Some ppl that kinda thing it doesn’t bother others it bothers them big time. My mom is big on teeth & them needing to b clean, straight u know properly taken care of. I’d wanna think any normal person would b big on personal hygiene & wanting their partner to take proper care of themselves. I feel like ur fiancé knew these kinda pet peeves about u when u first met & for him to just ignore them now is disrespectful & sign of complacency. How some will let themselves go after they feel comfortable & secure in a relationship. You’re not wrong

Seems a bit much imo - the cavity specifically won’t harm you and your mouth - but his overall lack of hygiene would be a bit of an issue for me.

Gross, I'd be the same.

I understand! Kissing someone with an infected mouth is gross. Or is his tooth not even smelling or infected

Fun fact, though cavities themselves are not contagious, the bacteria that causes cavities can be passed along through saliva, making you at higher risk of developing cavities once the bacteria is transferred. A big reason why you shouldn’t kiss your kids on the mouth or share silverware when you have an untreated cavity. I’d say it’s your choice on what you’re comfortable with, though!

Getting the cavity filled doesn't change anything. Cavities aren't contagious..

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