Drained

If you allow him to cross your boundaries regularly then what's the point in having them? The fact he crosses them shows there is no respect there for you having them but also he knows you don't hold them so probably doesnt see the point as he'll view it as they aren't that important to you. Sounds like you should be done.

If you ever have a break up with someone.... Keep it!! Or else what's the point of the relationship? They will keep crossing your boundaries cause why not y'all might get back together. Idk what your relationship is like but I feel like if you feel wishy washy about your future husband it's time to move on or just be FWB

Sound like he’s reached a “tolerable level of permanent unhappiness” w u. Do urself a favor & search that up on YouTube & save urself the uncertainty. A real man who actually loves u, can’t even stand the idea of having 2 live without u..A man that genuinely cares abt u & wants u in his life permanently,can’t live without u & if he had 2 choose between other girls/single life & staying committed 2 u, he’ll choose u in a heartbeat.💓 An Ultimatum only works when it’s done ONCE. The point is 2 see if a male will choose to tighten up or see his way out ur life. Some males are only w women 4 convenience. Have u thought abt the ways that you’re convenient 4 him but all he’s doing is causing u stress & taking from u?💛Life is 2 short for b.s! I hope u find the strength 2 leave him alone! No man is better than a shtty one.

This reminds me of this book I just finished reading it's a self-help book and it's called the tears that taught me and for the author to be able to grow and to become the best version of herself she had to realize that you can love somebody but not have them in your immediate circle or you can love somebody and take space from them or love and no longer involved with them just because you love somebody and you forgive them does not mean that they need to be in your life this is not mean if you guys have kids together you can just not be in his life if he's a good guy and a good dad then he should still have a right to those kids and still be able to co-parent but if there's no kids then you can 100% just cut him out and not have anything to do with him just because you love someone doesn't mean you can't outgrow them and move past them