Argument over honey

Husband was making dinner this evening and put honey on some of the chicken. I said our 10 month old couldn’t have honey because it could make her really unwell. He said he didn’t put honey on all of the chicken and that she could just have the bits that didn’t have honey on it. I said that I’d just make her something else entirely as I wasn’t comfortable with the fact that it was all cooked In the same dish and was worried about the other bits of chicken soaking up any juices from the chicken with the honey. It’s now caused an argument and he’s been saying that he feels like he can’t do right by me because nothing he does is good enough and when I asked for examples of what else have I corrected him on and he couldn’t. Was I being unreasonable?
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No, you just want to make sure your daughter doesn’t get sick?? 😭

Sounds exactly like my partner. It’s a cop out for their laziness. I’m with you.

I'd probably agree with him in this - cooking well kills the botulism toxin if there even was any there to begin with which is very rare, and she's an older baby so even lower risk

Completely reasonable and I wouldn't risk it if it was me either. And from husband's perspective, I wouldn't even be annoyed if I forgot about the honey thing and st else had to be made. It's no biggie. Perhaps he's probably more annoyed about a bigger picture than this one particular thing

I actually think you overreacted in this situation. The chicken was going to be cooked, which would kill off any potential bacteria in the honey, which I'd have thought was obvious tbh. J 100% wouldn't have worried about giving my baby that chicken.

@Rebecca I thought it was common knowledge you don’t give honey to infants under 12 months old. Not to mention the high sugar content which is entirely unnecessary for an infant to be consuming

@Dani I am aware of the no honey rule for babies under 12 months, but cooking anything kills bacteria, as if it didn't then when we wouldn't even feed our kids chicken! As for sugar, it's no more than babies who eat loads of fruit everyday, as that will also contain a high amount of sugar, it's no different (sugar wise).

@Rebecca if cooking killed all bacteria then people wouldn’t get food poisoning. The mother is right to be mindful of cooking food in honey for a 10 month old.

@Dani people get food poisoning because they either don't cook it properly, don't store it properly afterwards or cook food that is beyond its best or "use by". The cooking process definitely does kill bacteria! Serving cooked honey to a baby who is 8 weeks off a year old would not have harmed them.

@Rebecca it's heat resistant

@Rebecca I think I’d rather trust the recommendations from healthcare professionals and not risk it based on your assumptions though. Not worth risking your child’s health

@Dani "guidelines" in this country are always OTT, it's evident in how we are advised to prepare formula! Other countries don't have the same rules that we do, we generally go overboard here.

@Rebecca if you say so

@Dani honey is a natural sugar, just like fruit so it is fine in moderation, and it actually has many health benefits. But yes, it shouldn't be given until one as the spores are heat resistant and cooking it doesn't kill the bacteria.

@Rebecca it's a small risk, and very uncommon, but infant botulism can be life threatening and isn't worth the risk.

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@Emily actually the spores are heat resistant and it doesn't kill it. That's why it's not recommended to give foods with cooked honey or raw honey until 12 months minimum. Although rare, infant botulism can be fatal.

@Sarah botulism spores are heat resistant but also not dangerous, the toxins they produce which are the ones to be avoided are destroyed by heat love

Not saying not to be mindful of keeping babe safe but it's likely way riskier driving a baby in a car than giving a 10month old a piece of chicken that might have a tiny bit of cooked honey on it..

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