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@Shore I want to have a talk with him after school rather than before but that's a great point. I'm so torn...With his ADHD he will not want to go to school and will be fixated on it all day. This is tough!!!
Poor guy. 😕 But you aren't just his mom through the wins. Let him know you love him, and he is important whether he makes the team or not. It's hard to watch our kids go through it, but this is when they need us the most. You've got this mama. Be his safe place in this storm. ❤️
@Bonny Thank you so much! It's going to be a long night for sure. Brainstorming the approach to let him know in the morning that the roster has been posted. I'm looking up something else for him to be involved in. He's been into fitness a lot lately so I will let him know we will be going to the gym more frequently so that he can work more on his fitness goals. He needs a positive outlet somewhere
I agree with @Shore He might feel even more hurt if he somehow finds out you knew and didn't tell him.
@Marian I definitely do not hold anything back from him. I just wish I didn't see that email. Usually I don't even look at any emails at night🥴. I think I'm going to wake him up even earlier to get ready for school then tell him after he's dressed. He has ADHD/anxiety and will stay fixated on the disappointment and will probably not be able to focus in school. Trying my best to bring up the positives and look for another after school alternative.
Take him to breakfast instead of school, talk about it then???
Give him a mental health day if needed
Whew! I appreciate all of the support ladies 💜. I showed him the email before school and he was extremely upset that his name was not on the list. He went through his emotions of feeling defeated, feeling like he wasn't good enough, and questioning why he didn't make the team when he knows that he's a great player. I gave him some time to cool off and told him to try to talk to the soccer coach today for feedback on what happened. With 9 minutes to spare he made it to school on time. I told him he can miss the bus today and I took him to school instead. He has his therapist appointment this evening as well. I assured him that he can move forward and will play even better and tougher to make the soccer team when he starts high school this year. It's redemption and showing him to not give up on himself.
You absolutely crushed it!!! Way to go for going above and beyond to make sure he has all the tools to work past this 💗
@Marian Thank you so much!! I was worried sick about him while he was at school. His homeroom teacher also kept me posted on how he was doing. They gave him the day to isolate and complete his work while his teacher also had a talk with him as well. He was able to receive feedback from the soccer coach as well on his performance. Safe to say it was a difficult decision for the coach to make as well. He came home in a much calmer mood, we went to the gym, ate a good meal, and he's asleep now ❤️. It's only up from here☺️
I’d tell him and let him get his feelings out with you instead of in front of his friends