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Im currently being told its a possible ectopic but nothing was seen on the scan, my hcg is in the 100s but jeeps falling and rising but not by much, i have been told of 3 options after my scan on Friday but im unsure of what to do as all have risks, 1. Expectant management 2. Surgery and possibly lose a tube or 3. Some chemotherapy injection where you cant try for 3 months after (it took me 3 years to get pregnant) so im reluctant to do that one but wanted other’s opinions on how they found things and what they chose x

I completely know how you feel but I've never had an ectopic I've had 3 chemicals and 5 missed miscarriges Im sorry x

Im so sorry for your losses how do you manage after so many?

Atm we haven't been trying but were restarting next month x

Hello, I would advise, don't worry or rush yet, let them identify where the embryo 1st is. Around 2 weeks ago, there was a concern that I had an ectopic. On the scan it was a PUL but my HCG kept rising. They stopped my IVF meds, as they didn't want to support a Ectopic with additional meds. I was so stressed. After a week, they saw an empty sac in my uterus - no yolk sac and no fetal pole. I am going back in tomorrow to see if the sac has any development in it.

When I was in your situation 2 weeks ago, I was going to opt for medical management 1st. My opinion would be for you to take the injection. I know 3 months may seem long, but actually your body and mind will need to heal from this trauma anyway. And leave surgery as an absolute final option. Because don't forget, your chances are halved if you lose a tube. Personally, I would rather wait 3months, instead of halving my chances of falling pregnant naturally. I'm sorry you've not had much input from other members and I hope you are able to make the best decision for you. Xx

Is expectant management something you would of considered? Ideally i dont want to put anything in my body if i dont have too and i know 3 months isnt that long but it took us 3 years to even get a positive pregnancy test and i just dont want to have to wait if i dont have to. Also do you always lose a tube with surgery or is it possible to have the surgery without losing a tube? I’ve heard the injection can have an effect on your fertility too x

I would have not considered expectant management. Only because my 1st miscarriage was a missed miscarriage. At my 12wk scan there was no heartbeat. So I have that fear that my body holds onto pregnancies, so I'd rather take tablets/injection. I our culture, boiling milk with turmeric, coconut oil, carmadmom, cinnamon and black pepper induces your period. In my 2nd miscarriage I had this alongside the tablets to start my bleeding. You could try this. As far as I'm aware, with surgery most people lose a tube, there are only rare cases where the tube can be saved. But I don't know anyone whose gone through this so I can't advise. Xx

Your HCG levels are pretty low so was mine at 300. They advised me for expectant management which is ideal because my HCG was not doubling and it was early they said this is best as you can start trying sooner. However it did take me 6 weeks for my HCG to drop to 0 but it’s definitely a better option if they suggest and if your levels are low. Did they give you this as an option?

Thank you for your reply, I have been told they may let me do expectant management but need to see what the scan says first, they have said it could take 6 weeks for it to come down to 0 which is better than the 6 months they were saying we would need to wait to try again, im not sure why they said 6 months though xx

If they suggest to do expectant management definitely suggest to take that option yes it’s a bit long but no side effects and you can start trying soon as. This journey is complicated as it is we don’t need to add to it. Good luck. If you need anyone to chat to message me x

I think they suggest 3-6 months for chemotherapy drug that’s an anti cancer drug so whilst that is in your symptoms you shouldn’t try to conceive as it can cause complications you your growing baby. Hopefully it doesn’t get to that stage 🤞🏽