I’m so exhausted 😭

Let me know when you find anything that works for you because we are going through the same thing, but I have a newborn. Solidarity mama!! You are not alone. ❤️

So far the only thing that has worked is putting him to sleep in our room and then moving him into his room after 20-30 minutes. He still woke up once last night which is better

baby steps! That’s still a win. Does he fall asleep after that in his own room? We slept in a different room with our newborn and then my toddler started waking up on her own searching for me 😭

Girl no he will come look for us, and climb right in our bed. I have helped him to get back to sleep by sitting at the edge of his bed, and rubbing his back. After 2 minutes of that he’ll go back to sleep, but he hasn’t quite mastered the putting himself back to sleep part yet. He used to do really good with that but that’s when he had a pacifier and we just stopped those all together on his birthday.

Damn, I’m sorry! It sounds like he’s looking for another source of comfort now that he doesn’t have his pacifier. Hopefully with consistency and time he will learn to put himself to sleep. Maybe offer him a teddy bear or a toy that he can use to comfort him?

He has a lot of teddys, I’ll definitely have to try that. Thank you

How does he sleep when he's with and without you? I have a terrible sleeper that's almost 2 and after I really watched him sleep i realized that he was just super restless causing the frequent wakings and looking for me for comfort. We started a new bedtime routine (dinner, play, bath, books, bed) and don't allow any play time or activities that could get him wound up after bath. That with adding in a banana or some magnesium lotion on his feet and legs has seemed to help the restlessness. He's still waking once or twice in the night but his time asleep is way better than it was. I was asking for a miracle when I bought the lotion but it seems to help. I still cosleep when he wakes but we are working on it

He sleeps through the night when he’s with us, but on his own he seems to sleep peacefully for 2 hours. I may need to just watch him sleep one night and let the baby sleep with my husband. We do baths with toys, maybe that’s what causes the hyper moment he gets once pj’s are on. Does he go to sleep in his own room with help, or are you having to transfer? Someone suggested melatonin but I don’t know

@Javacia Mine sleeps fine when with me and it was about 2 hours before the first wake up before we started adding in magnesium lotion. I know melatonin is not recommended for under 3 because it disrupts their bodies natural melatonin production. My son goes to bed in his own room every night and I lay with him until he's asleep. Then when he wakes up I go into his room and either lay with him until he's back to sleep, or just sleep the rest of the night with him. I put a full size mattress on the floor in his room so I can at least get some decent sleep. I was going crazy and soo sleep deprived for months

how long did it take you to be where you are now with his current sleep arrangement? A couple weeks? Days? A month? I’m hoping to transition my soon to be 2 year old in her own room soon but I’m going to wait until the newborn stage passes first (I have a newborn). I’m thinking I will be going through the same thing as you since my toddler is pretty attached to me and will cry for me in the middle of the night. 😭

Okay well definitely have to try magnesium lotion, do you put all over or just on his feet? Oh yeah Kendrick’s in a toddler bed right now, I sit beside his bed on pillows because he tends to roll out sometimes. We also have a rocking chair in their room but he’s not a fan of that anymore. Yeah we’re currently sleep deprived now, woke up today at 7:30 and went back to sleep in the living room 😭

@Javacia ive been putting it on his feet and legs about 15 minutes before bed. Just know that if he's not deficit is magnesium it may not help. I was trying everything and anything just in hopes it might help a little. I've accepted it's normal that he'll still wake in the night but anything I can do to help minimize it is great. My son hated the crib and whe we moved it to a toddler bed it was the same fight. I think he just needed more space to feel comfortable and that's okay.

@Linda I've always put him to bed for the night in his own bed. In the beginning that was in my room and then in his own room. My struggle was he would be up every hour or 2 hours screaming and snuggling was the only thing that got him back to sleep. I am the only one who gets up with him in the night so our sleeping arrangement kinda happened to make it work for me selfishly. I'd say it's taken a couple weeks to get in a better situation recently. I already had a full mattress on the floor in his room but started implementing new things that have helped - star projector on all night, lullabies instead of white noise, hugs and kisses and then not touching while he falls asleep, magnesium lotion on legs and feet. Changing our routine and being more strict on limiting playtime after bath/shower before bed has helped his body relax. I will say I'm a stay at home work from home mom so my son is with me 24/7 and I'm sure that plays a role in the separation anxiety at night