My husband became a monster

Since our baby was born my husband changed, he is a completely different person, now he is always mad and yells at me all the time. He did everything possible for me to go crazy (literally because now I have postpartum depression and I was having really bad panic attacks and suicidal thoughts) I started going to therapy and I realized he has been emotionally and mentally abusing me. I have been trying to leave him but I’m in a complicated situation since I’m in a change of status process. Every day things keep getting worse, he started to smoke weed again but now he is smoking all day and night and being completely useless, he is not even working and he plays video games all night and sleeps all day. Things got much worse because he started smoking weed inside the house, I told him that if he keeps doing I’m gonna call the cops but he didn’t care, I found him smoking weed inside the house again tonight so I called child protection and when I was in the middle of the call he came and tried to take my phone, he got really mad, he said I’m dead to him and that he is not gonna talk to me never again. I hang up because he was so mad I got scared. Now I’m also scared to report him because since I’m in an immigration change of status I’m worried this could affect me. Also if he tells his mom I would lose the only support I have here. I’m so scared and confused. I don’t know what to do

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Pls leave … you’re worthless to him and he’s causing you more stress. You’ll be better off on your own trust me !!!

You have to look after you to look after your baby. Being in a constant fight or flight mode isn't going to help anything and you deserve so much better. I'm not sure how things work with immigration but I feel like there should be some kind of safe guard in place for leaving an abusive relationship and also that you've just had a baby. You are acting like a single mum. He is doing nothing except cause you stress. His smoking in the house is not good for you baby's delicate lungs and the yelling is also bad for them emotionally. I know its scary but if it makes you feel better I left an emotionally abusive and highly manipulative relationship at around 8 weeks postpartum. My relationship wasn't as bad as yours seems and it was still the best thing I have done for both myself and my baby. Happy mums make happy babies 🩷

You don’t need to worry about your immigration status if you go in child protection services and social services are involved you will automatically get indefinite leave to remain in the uk you will not need to pay the fees etc they will handle all your immigration for you whilst you are under their care. Be strong, you have given birth you don’t deserve to be in an abusive manipulative relationship so you should definitely call for help. Before it’s too late for you and your baby. You have postpartum depression with no support from him your baby should be your priority and put your child’s safety first as well as yours. If you need to speak to anyone always here. I have a legal professional background therefore don’t hesitate to speak to me if u need any advice xx

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