Incognito on Peanut: Fair or an overreaction?

Incognito · 2025-03-14T12:15Z

DH asked for help with 4 diagrams for work. I have the software on my iPad to make it, he doesn’t know how to use it properly so I am the one who has to do the brunt of it. LO slept in today (until 9 am). I did breakfast and then we played for a while. I told my DH that he needed to take over with LO if he wanted me to finish up the work. He said he would (this was at 11). Well, he is not watching LO because he has come to me multiple times and told me to play. He told me “Daddy tired”. LO has then tried to help me on the iPad (thankfully I saved) and I’ve called DH to come get him. “He doesn’t want me, he wants you”. I’ve told DH that he needs to figure out how to do his own work if he won’t watch LO in order for me to get it done. It’s not my work. I was trying to be nice but him not even occupying our LO in order for me to do that has annoyed me. He is stressing because this is the last day in which it can be done (we’re away this weekend and it’s due Monday), but he is not pulling his weight as a parent, meaning I’m having to do both. He only told me about this at 10pm last night. He is usually much more hands-on and doesn’t need to be told to do these things. I don’t know if it is work stress or that he is physically exhausted. I am taking some time to calm my thoughts because I feel I overreacted by saying I won’t help. I feel a little guilty about that. It takes a lot for him to ask for help with something (Neurodivergence), at the same time, he should be managing LO so I can help him.