in February 2025 Babies 🇬🇧

Can’t cope

I’ve had such a hard day with baby, she hasn’t let me put her down all day, been counting down the minutes for my husband to come home from work. He doesn’t come back, he goes straight to the gym with his friend, after the gym he gets home, I ask him to hold her so I can use the toilet and he says he’s going out with his other friends. He’s looking for the house key and I ask how late he’s gonna be because I don’t lock the front door until midnight when I go up to bed and he’s like “late”. wtf I’m so upset, baby is screaming when trying to feed her, I just want to have a shower. Why does he do this? I wish I could go to my mums house. I just want to wash my hair that’s it, I’m so frustrated, I don’t care that he has these luxuries of going out with his friends, it’s the fact he knows I’ve had an awful day and has decided to go out ? He was home literally long enough for him to get changed. He’s so useless, I do all the night feeds and whenever he usually gets home from work when I ask for help he says he’s too tired. He does nothing. Then he calls me from work and asks me to help him with his work. I’m practically a single mother at this point. And yes I’ve asked him to do more, he says he will and then he does nothing. He won’t even wash her bottles for me. He’s a man child. I feel so guilty, did I make the wrong decision having a child with this useless idiot? I don’t regret my little princess, I just wonder if I made the wrong decision in who her dad is. I’m probably just being dramatic because I’m upset.

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To be honest, I do think it may have been a mistake having a child with this ‘man’. But there’s no point dwelling on that, what’s done is done. I absolutely would not tolerate that absolute lack of respect for you and your basic needs. I would pack your bags and go to your mums asap

Yeah just go to your mums. You’re stressed and that can make one react in a way that’s not productive. Going to your mums is productive because she will help. Sitting there fuming waiting for him to get home so you can tell him off is not good for blood pressure. Go to your mum’s, have a shower and chill out for a bit. Recharge your energy so you can tear his head off later. For the record, I’d be extremely unhappy too.

If possible, definitely get to your mums, or see if she is able to come to you. Hope you're okay, you definitely need a hug and a shower 🫶🏼🩷

Go to your mum's! I'm so sorry you are going through this, I really hope your mum is helpful and supportive. If this were a one off you could maybe forgive it but it sounds like he's just useless in general/doesn't care/isn't supportive. You may find it easier to solo parent as then you don't have expectations 😣

Go to your mum's! Or ask her to come over. She'll give you that time you need to sort yourself out. A shower with a double shampoo hairwash will do wonders. This situation would make anyone unhappy!

This sounds so difficult. Raising a baby is unbelievably hard and you need the support from your partner 100% for your physical and mental health. I’m my view this isn’t acceptable, sending my love and I hope things get better 💕💕

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