🔥🔥Being submissive

I don't work or pay bills but I am a mostly submissive wife, IMO submission is something earned. I feel like submission is something that should feel natural, and if it doesn't then it's either one of two things: 1) your partner hasn't earned your submission, or 2) you're just not a submissive type of person, which is perfectly fine and you shouldn't force yourself into a mindset that doesn't feel true to you.

She's asking if they struggle to be submissive, I shared my opinion on how I think submission works in relationships. I've never worked or payed bills in my relationships but I've still struggled with submission in certain relationships (which is why I commented instead of voting and skewing the poll results), that was my point is that I don't think it's always tied to financial roles...

No I don’t. Being submissive is a choice I make every single day.

Hahahaha good joke, real knee slapper 😂😂😂

Submission to me has nothing to do with who makes more. In fact, it's a common trope that a lot of people in high power positions seek out sexual submission as a break from the rest of their lives

Like sexually?

No, my man is really good to me which makes it easy to submit to him. I respect him as a husband and father and what he brings to the table. I don’t limit it to financial provision. Submission is actually more about partnership than one being over the other

Maybe if you’re having a hard time being submissive, you can explore those thoughts / feelings. Maybe they are trying to tell you something

No I'm not submissive. We are equals. We discuss and compromise where we need to. We have a great and balanced relationship.

I don't have trouble with it as I am not submissive nor do I wish to be.

Why the fuck would I want to be submissive? That's essentially saying that your man is above you and should be treated like a god, no thanks

I will never be submissive. And I will teach my girls to never be submissive. 😂💃🏼

I feel like this might be a man on here. This is a very odd post

I’m not a submissive person 😂 maybe sometimes In the bedroom 🤪 but generally no thanks ! I have a voice and I will use it x

I felt this. Some days are harder than others. If he's on top of his game it is so much easier to be submissive

Definitely not a man . I posted incognito because there are some judgy ass people on here no offense to any of you ladies that commented

I don’t struggle with it cause I don’t do it🤷🏼‍♀️ we are partners and make decisions together

For me honestly, it is hard for me to be submissive to my spouse in general, not just speaking in terms of the bedroom.. I just have a hard time being told what to do especially when I provide close to the same amount that you do to our household. Now if I was a home maker then I most definitely would feel that it is important to me submissive to my spouse as he would truly be the head of the household.. My spouse and I disagree more than often because he says that I don’t know my place as a woman

I definitely do agree with some of these comments, I just wanted honest opinion because I tend to be really close minded about things and wanted to get other women’s prospective

this ^^ I honestly really did take your comment to heart, because my spouse is very good to me as well, and I honestly did not look at it the way you presented it.. it should be about partnership vs control you are absolutely right. I just felt like in my head if I’m expected to submit, that my spouse should be expected to present hisself as the head of the household and fully provide

Yes not everyone has the same definition of it though. Personally, this is from a faith perspective for me as the idea from submission generally comes from the Bible. It’s about coming under a mission “sub-mission”. Men and women offer something different to the relationship. So yes, if your husband wants a submissive wife, he has to create a space for her to be able to submit and not just require it. That means loving his wife to the point of giving his life for her.
Men who demand submission without themselves fulfilling their jobs are a walking red flag imo and shows that the man doesn’t know what he’s talking about

Absolutely🤣 I feel like the man!

Being submissive does not equate to the idea that you aren’t still partners. We are absolutely still partners in life. Choosing to be submissive is a choice. Choosing to defer to my husbands wisdom for our family and the direction we are heading is a choice. We are both very strong willed people. Which caused a lot of issues when we were younger and before I made the choice to defer to his judgement. We still discuss things. We still make decisions together. But sometimes there is no compromise to be made. And I make the choice to trust in his plan for our family when those things have come up.

Why would you need to be submissive? We are equal and make joint decisions. So far (10 years going strong) we've always been able to end up on something we both want.

you made a very valid point as well. As you stated everything is a choice, and with myself I do very often choose to put my opinions/decisions before his, although I know He has never steered myself, or our family in the wrong direction.. We also clash because both my spouse and I are very strong headed individuals as well, but I am more so the stubborn one, i definitely have to work on that

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