My mother triggers me
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@Melissa sometimes I feel like I’m being crazy, so I needed to hear this. Thank you 🫶🏻
My mum does most of what you said and personally it doesn’t bother me but I see where you are coming from. Maybe explain why it bothers you to her.
Yeh I cut people off who disrespect me especially when it comes to my children. Idc who you are.
She doesn’t take me seriously and it gets tiring repeating myself so then I just want to push her away and avoid her which is impossible. She also texts me multiple times a day and it drives me insane and I finally put my foot down on that but with her she’ll just stop for a little while then go back to her old ways. It’s super frustrating
That’s the problem, you’re doing to much talking and not enough action. That ain’t impossible unless you make excuses.
@Eviee my sister tells me the exact same thing. Idk why it’s so hard for me to have consequences when boundaries are constantly crossed
Do you live wit yah mom or something like what’s your circumstances? Are you dependent on her temporarily?
@Eviee no thank god. I lived with her the first 4 months after my daughter was born but she lives like 10/15 minutes away and always is coming to this area to run errands so she’s constantly asking to stop by multiple times a week
Hypothetical question. If you walked in on anyone especially a family member touching your child inappropriately do you think you would react the same way? And I ask this because you’re letting your mother over step both of y’all’s boundaries which youre tryna teach to your child. And like you mentioned before one of those boundaries is privacy and personal space. I don’t understand the details of why you have a hard time with defending yourself and your child but I do understand the in between feeling of not knowing what to do. How I started to view it was exactly like that. In my eyes regardless of my own personal anxieties & traumas. Since I have been blessed with a human being to raise and most importantly protect, I had to put mine aside just for a moment and protect my child(ren).
I too had to deal wit my mother being disrespectful and crossing the boundaries I placed. I unfortunately was staying wit her at that time so she felt she could abuse me during my time of need & harass me and try to “parent” my children. At every turn I stopped it and confronted her which only made her progressively worse. It became very draining not to spazz out on her especially since I was in a very dark place in my life which she knew about. But these are things narcissistic abusers like to do, it’s amusing because they’re that miserable and toxic. If you don’t stop her behavior and start putting in the actions of cutting her off her access to you and your child it will only get worse. So I heavily advise to get something done about this now for your own mental and emotional sake. Youre her child however you’re also an adult and she needs to respect and understand that.
You are def not crazy. My MIL does this and it drivese me nuts!
All that is DEFINITLY happening when your not around and probably more. I would be triggered too. If you can lay down the law more sternly then do that! If not you have to find a different way to let her know you are serious!