Bit of an awkward Q..

I think it all depends on the intention. I had an abortion when I was 22 and I wouldn’t count it because at the end of the day I made the choice to terminate FOR ME and while I harbor some sadness about it I don’t treat it as a loss. But when I was TTC and I we had a chemical pregnancy at like 4-5 weeks, it hit me to the core and that loss I felt with ever fiber of my being.

I count my abortion as an angel baby. It was not my choice I was a child when I got pregnant. It was my mothers and the child’s father choice. I was too young and weak to fight. But I agree with above, depends on the intention

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Then it is definitely your angel and rainbow baby. Because your heart wanted them and the choice to terminate wasn’t yours. ❤️

Interesting comments, I had what was called a 'missed' miscarriage. So had to go for treatment not so much to terminate the pregnancy but, the treatment I recieved was a what happens when women have an abortion. So although I have never actively chosen to end a pregnancy, I can empathise with what women may go through. Not only physically but the emotional side of coming to terms with the end of a pregnancy. Sometimes we make choices that at the time were right for us at that time of doing. Yet, the loss that we may feel is still the same. Just because, a women actively decides to abort a their pregnancy does not mean that they don't or won't feel loss. Yes, they'll be comfortable with their choice but, they can & may still grieve for that baby that they may have had if they decided to go ahead with the pregnancy. @Echo to answer your question, yes I think that an abortion can be an Angel Baby x

I like reading all of your thoughts and feedback! It's always interesting to see different perspectives! My first I don't consider a loss because I don't want to acknowledge that pain. It was a pregnancy from rape/incest and that alone was painful enough to admit. I guess the way I get over it is by telling myself it wasn't really a loss because that pregnancy never should have been. This time I'm wrestling with it a lil... On one hand I wanna call it a loss because it was a child conceived out of love, not assault. I didn't necessarily "want" to abort, but I had to because I just had a c-section and was told that I would have very high chance of uterine rupture. So idk, it's kinda a loss, in a sence but also kinda feel bad calling it an angel baby because I don't want to make it seem like this wasn't my decision...like, I don't want to take away from anyone who's had a different experience, or disrespect anyone who has had miscarriages. 🤷

I think it depends on the woman and circumstances. I was forced into an abortion by my ex at 18, and I consider that little one on my angel babies list

I had a failed abortion where I took a pill to terminate but it didn’t work, then I had to have the baby surgically removed. I also contracted sepsis due to the failed termination. I count this as an angel baby because I feel like he or she was a fighter, I was in hospital for some long days and nights very very ill and felt immense regret and loneliness. I fell pregnant 2 months later (on protection) and knew that it was Gods plan for me to have a baby and now I have my beautiful rainbow baby. My son was also born during the hight of the pandemic in England and one way we as a nation stood together was by putting rainbows in our windows, so driving home from hospital with my son seeing rainbows littering the streets confirmed this for me 🌈 Thanks for listening that feels very good to get off my chest.

I do consider my abortion an angel now of mine.