Ok rant !

My bf had kind of been irritating me lately - he is a SAHD and by no means is being a stay at home parent easy but I think he’s spending too much time doing things that aren’t productive. He can literally sit and ply his game all day (idc if he plays I just want him to take care of stuff. He hadn’t watered our garden in a week , I had to do it. He wants me to cook dinner everyday( why !? I work 10 hour work days) he hasn’t cleaned our house it’s filthy. And he wants me to do all the grocery shopping too. I feel like he’s asking for too much and he feels like he’s overwhelmed with parenting. in my mind it doesn’t make sense because — if I’m working 10 hr work days coming home and taking care of my child( that means feeding, bathing, and playing ) when I get home. Also cook dinner every evening. take a shower, water the garden , also recently he asked me to do his hair which can take hours because I have to cut it too. I feel like I’m taking on too much responsibility. I’m already paying for everything and working overtime at work to keep up the bills. Can’t he do more like ? Am i asking for too much ?

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Your doing the role of a single parent at this point hes acting like a babysitter

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Facts💯

Im not sure how to help with that. My ex that did that got the boot I didn't work 15 hour days just to do everything myself so i left him

I had to separate from my husband to prove to myself that I could do things on my own, and actually thrive more on my own. He was actually bringing me down because he was zero help and also expected me to do everything PLUS he made more work for me. When I left him it made him realize that I didn’t need him as much and he stepped it up a lot. We ended up getting back together and he’s been a lot better, but he definitely needed that reality check.

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It really took a lot for me to make the decision to leave him. It caused a lot of strain with the in-laws too, and they were the ones who helped me with watching my daughter while I was at work. But it really turned things around. He thought I would never leave and that I couldn’t handle things on my own. Good luck! Either way, you got this!

I’ve threatened to leave but haven’t done so. maybe i should 🤷🏾‍♀️ he afraid for me to leave him so it might work