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C section scar pain

I am 3.5 weeks post section and in the last few days have started having frequent stabbing pains on the right hand side of my scar. It happens when walking or twisting - basically most movements! There is no redness/swelling/sign of infection, and I had no issues until now. Has anyone else experienced this?

99th Centile Baby 🫣

Just had my 32 week scan to find out my baby is on the 99th Centile, with particularly high AC. He’s EWF is 5.2lb, I’m terrified about having to have a C section or the risk of shoulder dystopia, I’m only 5ft, and partner is 5’9 so no idea where this has all come from. Negative for GD, anyone on a similar trajectory?

Induction.

Was supposed to get my induction date before 40 weeks they’ve told me today it’s 3 days after my due date. Honestly so fed up, is there really any point I may aswell just go into labour naturally! Really expected it to be a day this week, just feel it’s pointless now

Tilted uterus

Has having a tilted uterus caused anyone any issues?

And has it caused anyone fertility/maintaining a pregnancy issues.

Inductions

Does anyone know what time of day inductions are discussed with the multidisciplinary team at Kingsmill? X

VBAC or schedule c section

I'm 38 weeks. I haven't decided yet if I'm scheduling a c section or attempting a VBAC. This will be my 3rd birth, 2 prior c sections. I really do want a VBAC but my ultrasounds show a possible craniosynostosis (early skull fusion) that can't be diagnosed properly until after birth. I see different OBs at every appt so I keep getting different answers. My last OB said she'd have me go into spontaneous labor instead of inducing. Other OBs recommend a repeat c section. I'm nervous either way. I don't want her to get stuck but I worry how recovery will go since I have a 4 and 3yo. My 3yo just turned 3 today and I've been joking with my husband that I'm gonna keep her cooking till Oct (due 27th) so we don't have two Sept birthdays 🤣 I just have a lot on my mind. Now I'm rambling, tired and uncomfortable.

Current birth rate is 1.39 children per woman. How many children do you have/plan on having?

I believe this is the lowest birth rate in 50 years.

Are you able to have the amount of children you’d like? If not, what is limiting you? Money? Housing? Location? Family support? Job? Partner? Living crisis? Other?

I am about to have baby number two and have always wanted 3/4 children. I don’t think 4 will be financially possible with the current costs of moving and living. Not to mention that maternity pay is shocking.

Mums to 2 babies or more

When were your little ones born in relation to their due date? Respectfully, please only write a comment if you were induced/had a c-section, I'm interested in when birth 'naturally' started

early labour ?

39 weeks- So this morning I woke up with wet underwear and a big wet patch on the bed with bad cramps!
went to hospital not my waters broken but very watery discharge 2cm dilated and a very thin cervix they said. Was sent home.
since then I’ve been in pain on and off all day I’m tracking contractions now they’re every 8 minutes lasting around a minute.
scared to just be sent home again if I call the hospital any advice ? anyone been in a similar situation?

VBAC regret?

Has anyone ever regretted having a VBAC? I had one with my 2nd and it was a great birth but it took far longer to feel normal again than it did after the C section and just thinking ahead to possible future pregnancies. Would love to hear your thoughts!

Water VBAC

Has anyone had a successful water birth after caesarean? My midwife said they can’t say no if I want to try for that but it’s against medical advice. 🩷

C-Section Recovery

Im currently 10 weeks postpartum following an emergency c-section, I know they say recovery is 6-8 weeks which I don’t believe but i’ve been having really bad abdominal pain, it doesn’t feed like cramps but like i’ve been punched in the gut, has anyone else experienced this and is this normal? It’s sort of come out of nowhere. I haven’t yet had my 6 week check in with the GP where I was hoping to bring this up.

Emergency C-section

Hey all

I had a cat 1 emergency c-section under general anaesthetic on 08/09..

Just wondering if anyone has any tips/advice for processing the trauma?

I feel like I’m okay at the moment but it’s going to hit in the coming days and I want to prepare myself

Post c section healing..

I’m not sure if it’s because I went into spontaneous labour before my planned c section or what but has anyone else suffered pain wise post c section? It’s only day 4 but honestly struggling with the pinching/ jolt stabbing pain on the left side of my incision when I move around and sit down. I know it’s only day 4 but people make out c sections are ‘easy’. Also have such horrendous tailbone pain (which could be from where I was having back contractions). I just want to feel back to normal and feel this is slightly taking away the newborn experience plus my toddler has reduced play from me as I can barely function 😩

Baby dropping?

Idk if it matters but I feel like my baby has dropped a bit? My pelvis aches more and my bladder seems sensitive/like I have to go more often. So excited now! Also has anyone had a discussion with their midwife or doctor about a membrane sweep? I was curious to ask my midwife some questions about it.

2nd baby - advise!!!

Hello mamas,
I just wanted to ask for advise really.. from the mothers who got more than 1 baby.

So we are thinking about 2nd baby 🙈 plan would be to start trying in the few months so if everything goes well by the time 2nd baby will come into the world, baby number 1 would be 2 years old.
Originally we wanted 2-3 years gap but I’m 32 this month and I’m little bit worried about being ‘too old’ 🫠

What are the pros and cons having babies with such a ‘small’ gap between?
Would you recommend it?
What challenges we will definitely go through?

Thank you! x

C section and swelling

When did everyone’s feet calm down on the swelling??? I’m 1 week pp. I feel like a packed sausage stick when I look at my feet 🦶🏼

Going to an event out of town at 35 weeks

I have a friends wedding which is about a 3hr drive away. Is this cutting it too close to due date to be travelling away from hospital? I could try drive there and back in a day. Not sure what the protocol is so any advice would be great.

Birth experience at Frimley Park

Hi all! I'm due around Christmas and will be giving birth most likely in the birthing center at Frimley park hospital. My midwife is sweet but hasn't given me a lot of information just yet about how the hospital units actually are, what type of room / setup it will be, is it sharing or possible to request a private room, how many days I can stay (not wanting to be asked to go home same or next day) etc etc.

Keen to hear experiences from others who have given birth at FP and would be happy to share any tips / guidance that could also help me prepare for hospital bag, giving birth? Thankyou 🙏🏼🙏🏼

I need a 2nd opinion on this!

I am 31 weeks and 4 days, my mucus plug left 3/4 days ago i have not been feeling too well for past 5-6 days now. I have had a feeling something isnt right and something is going to happen! Now baby is all good and active and shes been normal. Last night i noticed clear and none smell liquid (thinking my waters) leaking. Any how i go and ring triage and get told to go in, get there monitor baby and shes happy. I then get told theyre going to do a swab for my waters and thrush as i have had thrush before. Dr comes and does a speculum just looks says cervix is intact and just looking im happy for you to go home. Then asked if i have a history of thrush she then just gets a swab and shuvs it in me that came back fine not thrush i then get sent home.

Something doesn’t sit right with me though. My mucus plug or what i think was left me then im leaking clear water so obviously i am thinking shit my waters have gone but dr’s talking to me like a child send me home gone through 2 sanitary towels (thick ones) in 5 hours (maximum) but apparently thats ‘normal’ because my cervix is normal. My gut feeling is saying go back but i am annoyed at how they was speaking to me. I am 21 years old and i know my body and i know something isnt feeling right at all.

What do i do because i dont want to go back and feel like i have wasted another journey as it really upset me thinking about it but i dont know what to do at all now.