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Am I Being Unreasonable?

Hi ladies I'm just looking for an outside perspective because I'm driving myself crazy thinking this over. In the last year I have completed the last year of my masters, planned my wedding, looked after my 2 and 3 year old, been taking weekly driving lessons, been preparing my 3 year old for the nursery she had just started, lost a pet that was more like a fur baby, my father has reappeared in my life last week after 30 years and I've dealing with a strained relationship with my mum. My now husband has been pushing for us to move house and told me he wanted us to move 2 days before our wedding and 6 weeks before my master's deadlines. I told him at the time I wanted to wait until the beginning of next year because I felt overwhelmed already but eventually I caved and reluctantly agreed to go ahead. I know the reasons he wants to move and I agree, they mainly involve more space and a bigger room for our youngest. I've told him today I'm mentally exhausted and cannot commit to helping with the house selling/buying/moving process right now. This has angered him as he feels I have forced him into the decision of taking the house off the market, am I being unreasonable?

Just need to rant!!!

Just collected my son from nursery (where I also work but have now broken up for maternity) to find out that a colleague has been off today with the stomach bug but still sent her children in for a full day!
I'm furious as this particular colleague normally complains about parents sending in their children to "spread" the sick bug whilst they're at home and causing staff to become unwell. I'm also furious as she knows I'm so close to having my 2nd baby any day and one of her children is in the same room as my son! This colleague in the past has always gone on about how vulnerable newborns are but all of a sudden she is doing exactly what she moans about!
Part of me wants to message her and have a go but I know it's pointless 😭
I now feel that I've got to keep my son off nursery until at least a month after baby is born just to help protect us all, but I know they will still expect me to pay for his space!

Sorry to rant on here but it's safer than messaging work!

Been called a horrible parent

So my partner has called me a horrible parent, pathetic and selfish

So basically our son has toys in his room and he finds the biggest one to stand on to climb over his baby gate and then after this he has free reign of the whole house... He's worked out how to unlock child locks on the fridge and cupboards so this morning for example he helped himself to a yoghurt and even a spoon from the drawer where the knives are.

So I've switched the baby gate to a more difficult one to open because he even worked out bow to open the gate, and Ive most of his toys out his room and now my partner had called me selfish because I want to lie in a morning, which is true but I don't want my self and our daughter to be woken up at 5-6am when my alarm is set between 7am and 7:45am I usually wake between those times anyway.

Came home from work tonight and all my partner has done is try to argue his point that I should get the locks you put on the doors and so be can't get anywhere around the house and even said put it on our door but he kicked off when I said we can put it on his door instead arguing what if he's sick and chokes on it or if something happens and we can't hear but it would be the same thing if we put it on our door...

My son is 4 and he may have autism, but calling me a horrible parent is just uncalled for because yeah I don't wanna be woke up at the crack of dawn but at the same time I want my fucking child to be safe! He came down to the kitchen this morning before even entering our bedroom...

How do I just walk away from 3-4-5yrs of a relationship with two kids whom I never even wanted ever in my life

But now mean everything to me. I mean shit what am I scared of ??? I have both my kids why tf dnt I just fuckin leave this abusive relationship every day he tells me stfu you are fuckin annoying asf stfu

C section

My partner got kicked out the room while I was being stitched up during my emergency c section and showed his mum our baby boy before I could even look at him without being drugged up. He’s called me childish for being hurt by this. He said he was crying and that’s why. But wouldn’t your first thought be if I’m okay not to FaceTime ur mum while I’m still in theatre. Was being the first one to hold him not enough? Thoughts?

What is everyone paying for a babysitter?

Let's say once a week for 4 hours how much are you giving per hour?
I'm in the process of hiring a new babysitter and am surprised with how many people asking for $25 an hour with no degree and little experience. My previous babysitter was happy with $10 an hour but unfortunately we moved. Is anyone paying $25+ for a babysitter??

Do you like your husband family?

I guess what i mean is do you have to like them? I dont, i dont like my MIL and i really dont like my SIL ( i do like my Father in law and his new wife)

If you dont like them, is it acceptable to tell your husband.?

Baby daddy issues

My partner and I values do not align at all. while he’s a good father and is a nice guy . he’s also downright lazy and cheap and I come home working a full-time job to a messy house and I’m just having to do everything. I’m exhausted and while I love my baby more than anything in the world and she’s literally the best thing that’s ever happened to me. I sometimes wonder if I had her with the right person. Anyone ever feel this way? Any advice? He also complains that I’m always angry or frustrated well now you know why.

How to deal with misscarridge

My cousin has had a misscarridge at 9weeks I'm really not sure how to comfort her please help she lives in London it's not like I can just pick up and go see her id have to get child card and then take a train.

4 months starting solids

Tell me all your tips!! Got the OK from pediatrician.

Holiday with a nearly 4moth old

I’m going away to turkey next month, any tips or suggestions what to bring ?
I’m a little stressed lol don’t wanna forget anything

Toddler reward jar

I’m going to get my 3.5 year old a reward jar with stars to put in and from some examples I’ve seen the reward in the end is something like buying toddler a book. Because I buy my toddler treats and little gifts like that all the time I now feel like I’m spoiling her in general so when it comes to rewarding her it won’t really feel like a reward because I buy things for her all the time! Should I change things up? Should I now just buy things for her as rewards and not so often? She also gets chocolate everyday but after she’s had her meals and I’m now worried I won’t be able to undo spoiling her. Just would like to know anyone’s opinions? She will be 4 in a few months.

London mums – how much do you pay on top of the 30 funded hours for nusery?

Just curious what other London parents are paying. I want to understand what the norm is - Not sure if I’m being charged too much.

If your child gets the 30 funded hours and attends nursery around 3 full days a week, roughly how much do you still pay per month for extras/consumables such as meals and activities?

Would love to compare as it seems to vary so much between nurseries! Feel free to comment what your fee covers too.

What are we doing

What is everyone doing all day with their babies. Do I just sit and talk to her all day and we stare at each other. Today is my first day alone with her while my husband is back to work. She all of a sudden hates her tummy time mat and wants to be sitting up chewing on her hands but she’s not quite old enough to sit so she’s enjoying a bouncy seat but I just don’t know what we are supposed to do all day alone together. If I watch tv is that bad for her, should I not be on my phone. Idk I would love to go outside with her but we are in Texas and it’s so hot out

Bd problem

Hello ladies🙄what are we doing to cope with a BD who doesn’t want to be around his new born and prioritizes non priority activities. Also my bd likes to play victim when I call him out on shit that are valid reasons to be upset. As in not wanting to b around his new born son and spending more time with him…. (No we are not together and no there is no bad blood between us.) I need a distraction😭 and honestly I wish he wouldn’t b around at all than in and out 😣

Christmas!

Hi ladies! What are we getting our 3 year old this year for Christmas? I have absolutely no idea on what to gwy mt little boy, I’d love some ideas! 🙏

Anyone else’s 15 month old started being picky with food?

He used to eat every and anything and now he either throws it on the floor or just says no 😐

Working mums

Please tell me your routine in the morning, I’m back to work tomorrow and I am dreading leaving my baby boy😭😭😭😭😭💔.
I work 8-4.30 and he will be at nursery, I think I’m going to have to set an alarm for 5 am, get myself ready and pray he sleeps until about 6-6.30, quickly give him his bottle, dressed and off to nursery by 7.30 and PRAY I get to work for 8 am.
This does not feel natural at all and it’s breaking me.. how is this fair? I should be with him.💔

Potty training advice!

I need some advice to help potty train my toddler. He has a potty chair but doesn’t want to use it. I help and encourage him and let him use it after every meal or drink but he sits on the potty and uses it beside the potty instead of in it. Any tips!!

Great grandparents

Went to my partners family’s get together the other day, with my little girl who is 3.5 months old. Had a bit of a situation with my partners grandparents.
We were all sat around a large table, having food and whatnot. My partners nan came over and sat with us, and had my little girl on her lap since my partner gave her to her. She didn’t really speak to me, just my other half. My partner then gets up to go to the loo, and as soon as his backs turned she shot up, and walked across to the other side of the hall with my little girl, without even asking me if that’s ok. Sat down with others (that I was looking forward to introducing my girlie too as they’d not met yet). Continued to sit away from me for about 5 mins, then eventually brought her back to my partner. I just felt super uncomfortable. Turns out she was drinking too, so an 80 odd year old woman who was tipsy was carrying my child around ( I didn’t know this until someone told me the next day) I feel a bit pushed back and disrespected.
I just feel like this happens so often. As soon as my partner isn’t there/his backs turned is turned, stuff like this happens from the majority of his family members.
From comments/unwanted opinions, to stuff like this.
Just had to rant about it on here. My partner knows that I was upset and frustrated about this. I said I’d let it go, but it still bothers me, you know!