Deciding to be a SMBC is the most empowering decision you will ever make!

Hello ladies! My name is Jacqueline and I am 40 years old from Montreal Canada. I have been trying to have a baby on my own for the last year. For anyone that is having a hard time with this decision please know it is the most courageous thing you will ever do. You are not settling you are deciding for yourself that you want something and going after it on your own as an independent woman! You have all the time in the world to meet someone and to meet them out of love and not because time is ticking to have a baby. Never feel ashamed that you’re at this point of doing it on your own! I do want love, of course I do, but I have realized it is sacred and not something I want to swipe right on. It will come when it is time, it is not something I need to go out and search for. I know when the stars align it will be there waiting for me. Having a baby on the other hand is not as simple. It is however the 21st century and so much is possible for a single woman. You don’t need a relationship to have a baby. You just need a good doctor, a herd of supportive people in your life, and vial of sperm from the bank LOL. I have had 3 failed IUIs and my first IVF cycle was successful even with only two eggs retrieved! I am currently 5 weeks pregnant and my mission is to end the stigma of what different families can look like! I am here for anyone of they have any questions or need any support at all! 💕
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👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Totally feel the same! I realized I was chasing men who didn't measure up bc I wanted a family so badly. But I can start my own family! So I did. A few weeks before I turned 41, I had an IUI and am 20 weeks pregnant! I have never been happier or more content since I made that decision. Mr Right will come along whenever it's meant to be, but until that point, I took matters into my own hands and am building my own family ❤️❤️❤️ (Also I know how lucky I am to have an IUI work on the first try, but ....ladies it CAN work! I was sure I would never get pregnant and here I am!)

@Alissa this is so amazing!!!!! And congratulations on your pregnancy! I too am so happy! And In a way o selfishly am so happy this baby will be all mine and I don’t need to share them with anyone!!!

I kept a journal during my process to become a choice mom where I often found myself talking about being brave and going after what I want was honestly the best thing for me, regardless of the outcome. The chances of me actually being able to have children wast small and I had no idea if it would work. It was a long process because of Covid and I required a minor surgery so it took about a year before I could even try. I’d be proud of myself no matter what the outcome because there’s nothing wrong with failure or not getting what you want, the point is to try. Having said that, I now have six week old twins. I’m still in disbelief but amazed everyday.

@Morgan omg congratulations!!!!!!!! So proud of you ! I have been documenting my whole journey on fb and Instagram .. also have a YouTube channel . Did you do IVF or IUI?

@Fahmida @jacquelinejoycoach

Congratulations on your journey!!

@Jessica thank you 🙏💕

Congratulations!!! My LO is 5years now, i am still amazed!! I look at pictures of my many syringes stored in bottles at the time. It is my best decision till date.

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