Nanny contact naps

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Have you approached her about the fact that she’s doing exactly what you’ve asked her not to? If not, I would start there so that she’s on notice. I’d ask her outright - “during prior conversations, we’ve asked that you avoid holding her out rocking her to sleep but we’ve noticed…. Can you help me understand why that is?” I had to have this convo with our nanny, albeit not several times over, but I did stress to her what our end goal was (independent sleep) and how her actions undermine those goals and what that means in terms of additional headache for us and confusion/frustration for our baby. Maybe she doesn’t understand the impact her actions are having but I would be very direct with what you want her to do. “Please feed our LO, burp him/her and then put them in their crib. Please do not hold her or rock her to sleep. If there’s a situation where we want that for her, we will let you know.” If that doesn’t work and she still ignores your request, change the nanny!

We just went through this too!! I hate this for us but I'm so happy I'm not alone 😅😅 I have a toddler that I found out was sitting downstairs watching TV ALONE for 40+ Minutes while she fed the baby and let him sleep on her while she played on her phone for 20min.... she was honest with me about it too. We have an open and honest relationship. I told her that her doing that makes him unable to fall asleep at night when I put him in the crib after feeds and that I spend hours at night up with him on weekends. I said that he needs to start having better sleep habits because I cannot care for both kids at night ALONE (my husband is not here) and be functional during the day if I'm only sleeping a few hours trying to help him re-learn his habits..... Give her clear instructions on the routine and tell her that she needs to report in with you in the office after each nap and tell you how baby did with the routine. You don't want to have to micro manage, bit her performance is directly impacted by this...

Everything else about my nanny is exceptional so I can't just give up on her either.. so I'm really working with her to help her understand the why behind it.. because she coslept and rocked her babies to sleep.. and her past families too. So it's a habit change for her too

My mom watches my LO.. I put my baby down for naps and my mom just started. She will finish the nap as a contact nap if she wakes up. We cosleep though on tough nights so contact naps don't really bug me I just like atleast one of the naps to be in the crib

I’m a nanny, you are her employer just simply say “no more contact naps” you don’t owe her any explanation. Keep it short and simple

I wonder if she knows how to get your LO to sleep without the contact naps.

Don’t be afraid to be to the point. Maybe you’ve been to nice about it and she doesn’t see it as a big deal. You’re her boss. She has to follow your lead.