Boyfriend following random girls on Instagram

I think that’s disrespectful. I have been upset about this before.

I spoke with my partner about this.(however he didn’t follow any new girls after we got together, just liked some pics of girls he knew) He respects the way I feel and said it’s easy to look and not interact (liking is interaction). Types of pictures are a huge thing, bikini pics, or family and scenic pics.. he knows the difference and has stopped liking anything that’s classed as inappropriate for being in a relationship. Again, look but don’t touch counts online too, people who use the “it’s just social media” is just an out for getting away with it. It’s still real life and it’s still giving out attention to those who do not need it. We all think differently, but it’s about wether or not it works within our relationship. Some people don’t care and some do, but regardless, he should listen to you and respect your boundaries… partners should want to make you feel good about yourself, not the opposite. If he knows it makes you feel shit and still does it, then that speaks volumes.

Not unreasonable my bf knows better all about respect and boundaries it seems he doesn’t have that

You’re not alone and I find it so weird and disrespectful

If both are doing it, okay. Clearly they agreed it isn't bothersome and doesn't change anything. But if one doesn't agree then it should be respected. Don't let him brush off what you're saying. It may be small to him but it's not small at all. You said you're uncomfortable and he doesn't give a shit. That calls for an ultimatum, if at that point its even worth it. Stand your ground on this. It's not unreasonable whatsoever. It starts out on stuff like this and they walk all over you. You need to be serious when you say this. Don't be afraid of losing someone who doesn't respect you.

When I first addressed this with my partner at the beginning of our relationship he basically told me I was overreacting, seemed jealous, and that “it’s just social media” but when I really broke it down for him and made him see how I find it embarrassing to find my partner’s name under those photos, he finally understood and apologized. It also helped expressing how uncomfortable it’s always made me to have guys like my selfies when I know they’re in committed relationships because I know their partners would likely be sad and insecure about that too, even though none of my posts have ever been scandalous.

Thank you ladies for your feedback, it’s reassuring. Any time I’ve tried to explain why it makes me uncomfortable he’s always just said it’s just my insecurities, that he shouldn’t have to feed into my insecurities as it’s “something I need to work on myself”, and that I’m trying to control him. Mind you, I’m actually quite secure in my looks and who I am, it’s just that we’ve had issues in the past with him and girls on social media and I just find the whole thing disrespectful.

I hate social media. Don't know how our society it's ok with all this shit. People seeking for attention only, seems very sad to me.

Grab his phone and delete all of them. If he gets mad then leave him. You deserve to be with someone who respects you. And if he can’t understand that he’s not the one.