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Is a four/five year age gap going to be to long?

Hi for context, I’ve just got into university to do my top up degree (2 years) for midwifery! So this is my dream job. However I’ve always said to myself I want a smaller age gap. I feel so guilty that if we wait he will miss out on that bond with a sibling. I’m also worried about leaving it later. So I guess I just want some opinions?

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I have a soon to be 7 year old stepson and an almost 2 year old son. We worried about this too but they are the absolute best of friends and love each other so much. They play together and my stepson is absolutely brilliant with him. We have joint custody too so don’t have him every day but most days so even the slight separation doesn’t affect their bond. It’s so much easier too as my stepson is a bit older so understands a lot more. Hope that helps

I can't speak as having a child with that age gap but there's 4 years between me and my sister and we have always got on like a house on fire! Same as with my brother who there's 7 years between. I'd be reluctant to put a hold on it if it's your dream job!

If we have another we plan to have a 4-5 year age gap. No age gap is a right age gap. There’s pros and cons to any age gap. Just do what’s right for you and your circumstances

I have a 1 year old and a 6 year old and my 6 year old is so good with my baby, he loves him to bits! I didn't plan a 5 year age gap but that's how it panned out for us and it's working well. I also think if they were closer in age they would probably fight more as they got older. Pros and cons to all age gaps I think x

I’ve got a 10 year gap with my brother and we’ve always been close. Go chase your dream!

We’ve always wanted about a 4 year gap ☺️ I want to be able to give another baby my time like I have my first and I know it’ll never be completely the same but I feel the bigger the gap the easier this will be! I have a 4 year gap between me and my sister and we’ve always been really close, even now her children see me as a second mum! Go follow your dreams ☺️

4-5 year gap is the dream for me - LG will be full time school /preschool, I’ll have settled into work/routine/ home and then I can take a year off again to be fully present with the new baby at home. I feel that to be fully invested in my family, I need to feel full. I’ve seen age gaps where the siblings are close in age but don’t speak to each other for years, where they are 10 years apart and thick as thieves - I think it’s more about what will set you and your family up for success (and joy and fulfilment!)

I have a 12 year gap😀

Thanks for all your comments guys! I’m going to go for the oppertunity and then hopefully will be blessed with another little one when we are all feeling ready and fulfilled x