Is my partner cheating / POF help

It’s a notification not an advertisement. But this doesn’t necessarily mean he was recently active. I would be asking why he even has an account?

Go on POF and see if you can find his profile? Apparently you can do that without signing up (just googled it)

It’s probably an old account but the fact he’s getting notifications says he’s had an account in the past, so I don’t know why he’s saying he doesn’t have an account

If it was an email notification for pof then possibly could be spam, if it came up the same way you get Facebook/insta/peanut notifications then the app is actively on his phone. Having the app doesn’t mean he is meeting up with anyone or even using it but I would certainly question why he has it in the first place. Especially after denying it was there or he had an account!! Have you been together long? Could it still just be on his phone from before you?

I haven’t used POF but I just googled it for you and found this useful article. It tells you how to even see when they were last active. To be totally honest what you are describing doesn’t sound good to me at all, especially given the fact he denied it. Sorry you are going through this. https://www.alphr.com/pof-account-active/#:~:text=If%20the%20person%20hasn't,t%20active%20at%20the%20moment.

Pof is plenty of fish which I’m sure Is a dating app

It wouldn’t say he had new matches if it was just a pop up xx

It’s saying he had new matches which means that he definitely has an account. It doesn’t mean he was recently active but I would question why he even has an account.

Thank you everyone. We’ve been together for 6 years ( two children) I’ve tried to search him and it won’t let me. But thank you for helping , I just didn’t know whether the new matches thing meant he had recently matched with someone also x

I would assume so. I think with tinder etc they tend to stop showing your profile if you haven’t logged in for over a month or something along these lines. Google it a bit further and lets hope someone here can help.

I get spam emails from dating sites saying I have new matches. I definitely haven’t got or had dating accounts within the past five years. Possibly an organisation has sold my details.

@Eleanor if its an email then sure but as far as I understood it was an app notification.

I’m going to be plain. If you have been together for 6 years, there is no reason why he should have the POF app. If that is a notification on his lock screen, that will be from an app and not advertising. Sorry you are going through this. He’s probably removed his account now, but he may be on more. I’m afraid that is very fishy… it doesn’t prove he met anyone, but if he had the app, which it does sound like, then he was looking.

I met my partner on POF, it’s a free dating app or at least it used to be. They will delete your account and data if you’re inactive for 2 years so he shouldn’t be getting any emails if this was an old account. I’m so sorry that you’re going through this xx

Yes I’m sorry he’s lying to u. You may not have found him on there due to him maybe using a different name or he could have deleted his profile. I would tell him to cut the shit and be honest with u.

Honestly if you have some of his common passwords or access to his email to make a new password it shouldn’t be too hard to log into his accounts. Id try just to check it out because that looks really bad. Use the email that message came from, try a few passwords you know. If you cant figure it out press forgot password and reset it. At that point it will either tell you he doesnt have a account or show you the active one.

I would be looking into it more, there’s nooo way it says ‘new matches for august 2023’ if he wasn’t active on it. I would get on his phone and have a look and then get him to describe/delete infront off you

My husband and I share all passwords. Just saying