My toddler (M 4years)

So, my toddler has been causing issues (its not his fault, he's just being a normal child. They're sometimes difficult when they're little) But anyway his dad argues with him, I argue with his dad. His dad gets angry and aggressive and it scares us both. This week his dad has pushed me twice, and our son once. My toddler hurt his back. It was just a bruise and he wasn't overly phased unless I asked him about it. I don't really know what to do, has anyone else been in this situation

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I’d defo think about leaving.. my inbox is always open.. but that could just be the start and no one needs to go down that road xx

I would get advice from an abuse helpline immediately. I sheltered a friend who went through an abusive relationship and they were able to talk to them over the phone without the partner finding out. However, abuse starts small and gets worse over time. You need support in place to protect yourself and your children. If you report it now then your partner won’t find out but it will protect you if anything worse happens later on. These things can have an enormous impact on children’s lives. Your son needs to be your absolute priority. In the meantime, have you considered asking your partner if they’d like to try family therapy? Some people have never been raised to deal with their emotions in a healthy way and they need to learn some ways to deal with their frustrations before it has a detrimental effect on your family. Sometimes it’s hard to break generational cycles.

@Kirsty honestly. I have no family, or place to go. Its not the start, when I was pregnant he'd rage and throw things. Hes always called me names, I think gaslit me. And then a few days later hes asking me if I want anything. And he buys me things, big or small. I don't really know what to do. Tomorrow I'm going to sort through some of my belongings to pawn off, because he had me as a stay at home mum. Which was fine until he quit work, and was around us 24/7 to "help"

@Stephanie i tried to get him into family therapy, and personal therapy for him multiple times over the years. And now he only suggests it when we've had an argument and hes sad/wants me to I guess feel bad and forgive? So at this point i think it'd be worthless.

He sounds a bit narcissistic. Please be very careful about staying. I would advise calling a helpline just so someone is aware of your situation. Everyone should feel safe and comfortable in thier home and relationship. But also, your son needs to grow up seeing healthy behaviour and a good role model for how to treat women

Just an update. Hes spent the last few days nagging and complaining at me about everything, whilst also wanting affection from me He blew up again at me and my son, and we argued. I told him about everything he does thats wrong and hes just angry at me, shouting at me about everything. I feel so lonely right now, I have no where to go, and no one will help us :(