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Family feud and new mum

Please share your perspective and suggestions to handle a pushy family member appropriately? I’ve been tame, a people pleaser, a push over my whole life and now that I’m a new mum I want to change so I am trying to be assertive and stand up for myself/family. It was my son’s actual bday and a family member wanted to come over to wish them happy bday and give them their bday present. Sweet and thoughtful. But the whole family is run down and sick and still recovering. We are getting together Easter dinner aswell as having a big bday party in a week. Multiple times I’ve advised that we will catch up for Easter and that we are tired need to rest and recover and they continue to persist it’s their tradition/culture to come over to our house on the actual bday day.

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Tell them you're contagious 😆 that deters most people

😝 they said we can wear masks, it doesn’t deter them. Very pushy though

😆 ok sure, mind the vomit and diahorrea. Hehe 😂

You got this hun, no means no. You will see them at Easter dinner and at the party next week. If they are your in-laws then tell hubby to back you up. And if they still insist then it's time to be rude back to them about it. 'I love you and love that you want to come over and spend time with us but right now you are stressing me out. I've already told politely several times that we are all still sick and recovering and are not ready for visitors and you keep trying to bully your way in. You will not be welcome to visit at all if you continue to be disrespectful about my decision. Now we will see you at Easter dinner and we hope to see you at the party Next week but as far as coming over earlier than that, it's no.' And then just let them deal with it whatever way they want and go about your day hun. If they are smart, they'll shut up and back off. If they are dumb, they'll whine about you not caring about them and stopping them from seeing your kid. Just brush their manipulative bullshit off if they do

“We are not having people over right now, we’ll see you at the family get together at Easter”. This statement is a full sentence and is not open to discussion. If they continue with their bullshit then respond with, “I’ve tried to be polite about this but you are not listening to me, so let me be clear: you are not to come over on that day. If you do, you will not be let in”. People like this family member only respond to firmness. So put your foot down and don’t be bullied. If they continue to talk then cut them off mid sentence and say, “that’s the end of the matter, I will not be discussing this any further with you. I’ve made myself clear”. And walk away.