Why do so many women steer clear of military men?
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I have no personal experience with this, and this is 100% NOT true of every man in the military, but there is huge stigma that military men are unfaithful.
They’re made out to be alcoholics and cheaters, some abusive. All 3 are traits that I wouldn’t shoot for and other people might not either and of course the distance is hard, but my finances in the navy and he’s not an alcoholic, a cheater, or abusive. He definitely hears stories about and sees all 3 and he doesn’t understand how they can treat women that way. The distance and deployments are hard and of course not ideal but our love is stronger than the distance between us and not talking for days. I’m confident in that. You just have to find the right one I guess
Well tbh, not just with men but for some reason people who join the military cheat a lot more.. not sure if it’s being around so many people and different people all the time or the “excuse” of “it’s hard being away and they just connected with them” . Personally- my husband is in the army and I had my questions and trust issues but being able to talk and visit each other before we got married kept it easier. Now that we live together, it’s so much better. Long distance is hard , even if it’s not due to the military. It’s just something we all have to work on.
I didn’t want one because I didn’t want to do long distance by myself or with a family. And then I definitely didn’t want to have the risk of him dying.
I’m not interested in the military life. So I never did or would date someone in the military.
I have family in different branches of the military plus dated an army guy in the past and it’s just not for me. The stuff I’ve seen… yikes!
Military men usually marry quick, cheat, drink a whole lot, and just have a bad rep for getting away with bs because the military protects their guys.
Military men usually marry quick, cheat, drink a whole lot, and just have a bad rep for getting away with bs because the military protects their guys.
Personally, I wouldn't want a part time relationship and I wouldn't want that for my kids either.
Yeah my husband is in the navy and a pos. Cheating, lying, emotional abuse. And it's not a stigma. It's genuinely the majority of military people. My husband literally told me once how all the men he met on his boat have failed marriages because they all treat there partners horrible. And then of course he did it to me too. There's truth to the stigma. Military people spend more time together than with there own families. A lot of them don't bother to hide their bad behavior. And they all just enable each other. They all make each other feel justified and like it's normal to do those things. It's honestly very normal for military guys to just brag about the awful way they act. I know too my husband was lying about me to his coworkers so they really validated his bad behavior because "I deserved it". You can believe me or not. My parents were both military then I married a military guy. I have a LOT of experience with the military for not being in it myself.
Married two different army guys. I can say it would be PTSD.
Military life is both awesome and really tough. Most military men have incentive to marry. Military family's move evey 2-3 years. The hours are often weird and sporadic. Alcohol is often abused. Cheating is common. Most military men are necessarily impulsive. That being said every man is an individual. Just make sure your man has solid values! And you are okay with a transient life. I married a really amazing soldier. Military life can be worth it with the right person! The pay is regular and the benefits are good.