How do you “handle” vocal stimming?

I’ve noticed I find myself feeling annoyed or irritated when it happens. Then… guilty for feeling like that. And she is vocally stimming ALL the time. Happy or sad, rain or shine, it’s an hourly occurrence. I think maybe it’s just the repetitiveness or the duration that is upsetting me. At the risk of sounding like an insensitive asshole, I’m coming to this group for tips or advice. Not necessarily to get her to stop… but maybe something that could help her? Should I be distracting her to get her to stop? Is that bad? Is it bad that I even asked? It’s like she gets stuck on a loop. My head is pounding. She is non verbal, but I try to speak for her during the chaos because I can’t tell if she is trying to let me know something, or if she is just making noise half the time. Idk… maybe I need something to calm me when it happens? Any help would be appreciated. I apologize in advance if the way I worded anything came off as offensive. I definitely feel guilty for wanting a solution but I need to say something to someone. (She is not officially diagnosed with Autism, only suspected)

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I understand where you're coming from, my sons suspected autistic, he constantly repeats words and phrases (I think it's echolalia).. sometimes it can get a bit much. But honestly I find it helps me if I join in with him. It makes him laugh and we do different tones of voice copying the words and phrases. I feel like it strengthens the connection between me and him because I'm stepping into his world for a while. If it does get too much you can get ear plugs that just dampen the sound a bit, so you can still hear her if you're needed but it won't be as piercing should I say. Sometimes I pop some music on so I can listen to something I enjoy whilst he's enjoying stimming. I wouldn't try to stop her as it will be helping her to regulate emotions in her own way, the same way we may take deep breaths, she vocal stims. I hope this helps ☺️

@Tasha This did help, thank you!❤️

I'm autistic myself, sometimes I join in with the stims that go on in our household. If the stims are too much for me I ask they do it in another room or i put headphones on or go somewhere else myself

I was going to say join in too I worked with people who vocal stimmed all the time only time there was no noise was when they were sleeping and I just joined in they enjoyed it a lot more than doing it alone too x

I don't have advice just reassurance that you are not the only one 😅 my oldest is 6 verbal and CONSTANTLY vocal stimming. He will get stuck on one word or phrase for HOURS and lord knows we love him but my goodness it drives both me and his dad nuts.

They sell headphones that can block out background noise or make it a little quieter. My son vocal stims a lot regardless if his mood and it gets too much sometimes and I can't concentrate on anything. I haven't gotten any yet but my sister uses them when her autistic son hums all the time and they work well for her. I'll look up the brand if you're interested. I just can't think of them off the top of my head

I got ear muffs for the whole family. My older son has a high pitched yell and it sets off my baby and also is painful for me as I have noise sensitivity issues myself. I also have been trying to get him to try other pitches as well and join in that. It’s hard though bc he likes making loud high pitched noises but doesn’t like any loud noises so often he gets upset if I join in. He’s almost 4 and it’s really hard bc Ive tried to move away and get space but he gets upset and thinks I’m leaving him and it usually escalates. Sometimes I say let’s go outside bc that’s where we yell.

I don’t like the ear muffs I found for me so I’m still looking

Thank you guys!

Don't feel bad! When my son does this as well. I try to guide the "conversation" by joining him and talking about other things. It's hard listening to the same thing over and over. So I definitely understand your feelings. 😅❤️