Is this acceptable?

I specifically joined a Nigerian group so I can ask this question. Please I’m 8 months pregnant and at that stage where i’m so sick and tired. My partner still expects to cook fresh foods almost every other day. I’m not talking spaghetti and potato oh, like different soups, stew etc. and they have to be fresh he doesn’t like food staying too long in the fridge. I’m so tired. I hate being a woman I swear. After he finishes eating I have to still clear his plate from the table, clean, etc. bare in mind I have a toddler as well to take care of Let me not come and die to please a man.

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Try and sit him down and speak to him and express how you are feeling ask if he able to help you out a little bit

Men can be insensitive sometimes. I would talk to him calmly to let him know how you feel and why this is stressful to you. He needs to understand that your physical and mental health is paramount, especially since you’re this far gone in your pregnancy. If he disagrees then he should be buying fresh soup from outside and you worry about making the swallow. Be strong dear.

Talk to his family members, tell anyone that can call and talk senses into him, he is very inconsiderate!! You’re 8 months pregnant and need all the support you can get not him stressing you tf out and you have a toddler as well, can imagine how hard it’s for you. Report him to his family members

Reporting to his family is only going to trigger more drama and stress you don’t need at this stage. It’s possible you set this expectations early on in the relationship so it will be hard to just break out of that pattern now. Moving forward you need to set new expectations. You can offer him the option of bringing his mother along to look after him with daily fresh meals (since he doesn’t understand he can help and the problem probably started from him doing nothing at home) OR he can buy catered food if he can afford it (most restaurants just heat up from the fridge and don’t even cook daily) But make sure you have a conversation telling him your doctor has mandated bed rest for your safety & the baby. Put yourself first! A man will move on faster than you can blink your eye if anything happens to you then give some sad story a girl will fall for & happily raise his kids while he continues living his best life. So Act wisely! Do what is best. Marriage is a partnership not slavery

He should buy the foods fresh then or employ someone to cook it. If you can’t, you can’t. My husband cooked and cleaned throughout pregnancy.

No, it's not. Absolutely not. I'm still in disbelief women clear their husbands plate after eating or cook freshly made soup daily. I'm all about respecting ones husband but this is not respect, it's slavery. Cook when you can, if you can afford it, order in. He grown adult should learn to serve themselves and wash up after eating. Don't get me wrong, I sometimes serve my husband and wash up afterwards, however he does the same for me. Keyword here is " Sometimes"

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