Co-Sleeping

Does anyone still co sleep with their toddler or has co slept until recently and managed to get their toddler back to sleeping independently? We have a 5 month old too, me and partner haven’t shared a bed in over 5 months as he co sleeps with toddler in spare room and I have baby in our room. It’s getting us both down as we also don’t get any time together in the evenings as we have to lie with our toddler until he falls asleep and quite often he’ll feel us move out the bed once he’s asleep and wake up so have to start all over again. It can be 9/9.30pm before we get to come downstairs. Also his new thing is he wants all four of us in the bed to settle him or he’ll scream the house down. He’s a very needy boy anyway but it’s just taking over our whole lives at the minute. Have never really been able to do the cry it out thing as we both can’t bear to hear him cry but we are willing to try anything to just get back in to a healthier routine. Is he too old for the Ferber method now? (Where you go in every few mins to check on them and then leave the room again but essentially self settling to sleep) Has this worked for anyone else with a toddler? Please any tips would be so welcome as me and my partner are getting really fed up of it now

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I coslept with my daughter until about March when my hv referred me to the local sleep clinic run by trained hv’s it was the best thing ever to have that support. My daughter has gone from co sleeping and waking the minute I move etc and multiple wake ups to sleeping in her own bed in her room. We had to ditch the cot because she had coslept for so long she just likes to be free so we child proofed her room and she has a floor bed. We tackled her routine and put a good routine in place so she knows it’s bedtime. Don’t get me wrong, she plays up going to sleep occasionally but she goes to sleep in her room finally. She’d never been a good sleeper and I coslept from quite early on. This was all done without leaving to cry it out. I physically and mentally cannot do that. Hv’s don’t recommend controlled crying due to research but they will support you if that’s what you choose to do. It’s a very personal thing to do controlled crying so no judgement. I contemplated it once when desperate

I have transitioned to cosleepung from around 4am most nights. I'm happy cosleeping as long as it works for us both 😊 but I still breastfeed, so it makes life easier! Give rested Mama a follow on insta, she is a sleep coach thatdoesnt use crying methods x

It was really hard for me…as my first co slept but second didn’t, however she did need to sometimes and it was starting to get to me. I started with getting a toddler bed with large bed guards and putting it next to my bed so he could still stand up and see me. He went fully in his bed in my room after 2/3 months. Then when my youngest got about 10months old (the one who wasn’t really fussed about co parenting) I then put them in the same room together at the same time so they didn’t feel lonely, took a good few months but it was well worth it now they are both in beds with a side guard and sleep all night through x

My 19 month old sleeps in bed with me sometimes x

Moved my boy to a large floor bed, and now I’m able to feed him to sleep on there and then extract myself, and he has done really well at sleeping most of the night by himself now. I do occasionally have to join him in his bed, but this is getting less frequent