What to do?

So I have a dilemma I’m with a guy it’s been 11 months now, I have 2 kids from previous relationships and he has none. So here’s the thing I don’t get much from him? As in compliments, affection or even sex is very limited. I’ve never been with someone like this? He says it’s because he’s ’laid back’ but wtf does that mean? I told him he needs to show he loves me not just say it? But it’s like he doesn’t know what I’m talking about? We’ve had the conversation a thousand times. If theres a problem I want to try fix it and he says you’re always having a go at me? Like no I want this relationship to work so why aren’t you taking in what I’m saying? I just don’t get it. To be blunt this relationship is boring no passion, no fire but I care for him deeply? Are we screwed?