Husband Vent

Hi everyone. I just want to get on here and vent for a moment and maybe ask what your thoughts are because mine are all over the place. My husband just got a raise yesterday (yay!) but I don’t think it’s nearly enough for me to become a SAHM. Either way, I like working on the weekends. My job is fun and peaceful and while I don’t make/bring in a lot of money for the bills, it’s nice making some to use as I please (mostly on baby, honestly) and it’s not something I necessarily want to give up quite yet. Maybe down the line but not yet. Today, we are talking and he’s telling me that he “is not willing to overwork himself” (his exact words) because his job is manually demanding and he then comes in and takes care of BB while I’m at work. I’d say that even during the times that I’m home on the weekend (before or after my shift) I’m always ready to jump in and help and he just lets me cause he’s tired. Anyway, he’s asking me to work less or take time off (but like, I’m just working two days a week— come on) so that way he isn’t “overworking himself” and I just about lost it. While I’m drained during the week taking care of our little one, I don’t complain much. Now I know it’s not nearly as physically demanding but it’s hard in its own ways. My weekends are also a break for me to get away for a few hours and I feel like he’s trying to get a grip on my time. MY TIME. I told him I don’t want to quit which he responds by saying he’s not asking me to but “it’s not necessary for (me) to work now”. For context, his mom is a SAHM with dad always providing and that worked for them but I don’t want that (maybe later). No shame in those who are! It’s great if that’s exactly what you want for yourself. I just can’t get over the fact that he sees taking care of our son as “overworking himself” and that it now feels that he wants to control how I use the time that’s suppose to be mine.