Am I over thinking?
So after 6 years of being with my partner with two kids I’m finding out he was engaged with his ex before.
So my partner is Muslim Turkish and today I found out when he was with his Turkish ex he went to her house to ask for her hand of marriage . me So I’ve now got two kids with him and his never done any of this. He give me a ring which he made his mum pick.
But apart from that his not romantic at all and I always mention getting married to him and he always brushes it of and says to me to wait for him to save a bit more money so I allow it.
But 6 years and still no effort from.
I’m also much younger then him I’m 25 he is 34 so even though I’ve got two kids I’m thinking after 6 years if your not gonna make a effort then I can’t stay with you just for the kids it’s not healthy for me at all. I keep begging for him to make a effort but it’s honestly draining me out now
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I said this to him about a hour ago but honestly it’s put me of . I don’t feel like marrying him not. The fact I have to keep mentioning it and clearly he was already engaged with his ex and he never done the same with me just makes me feel like shit
If he wanted to, he would. Also, don’t think he put in the effort for his ex either. Maybe she asked him to do that. You never know. But, usually men don’t change after they show you who they are unless they have the love of God in them.
Just stop asking and be like you know how I wanted to get married i dont want to anymore I find that I’m better off not having that commitment! It may be a lie but depending on how he answers is if he was ever going to marry u in the first place. My bf of 7 years always says he going to Mary me one day but never showed any interest so I said that and he busted out in tears sayin I just wanted to give you your dream wedding! But yeah after 7 years I’m over wanting that dream cause in all reality it’s just a dream