Too soon?

I am so so sorry that happened to you. It’s so hard. I think it depends on you. Definitely get therapy, grieve and mourn in whatever way you need for however long you beed. I lost my baby boy June 2nd at 20 weeks and I’m 6 weeks pregnant. While I was initially thrilled, I will say it has been a weird experience. I should still be pregnant with him so I’m basically mourning my son and also trying to be optimistic and celebrate this baby. it’s also terrifying because the bubble of innocence has been lost. We unfortunately are part of the group that knows there is no safe zone and I keep praying this will be our rainbow. Praying that you get yours as well, when you’re ready. 🙏🏽

Sorry for your loss. How did they determine no cause of death in such a short time? It took 6 months to get my son’s reports back and find his cause of death. As long as you’re mentally/emotionally prepared then there is no reason why not. Pregnancy after loss is tough mentally. So just be prepared for the rollercoaster of emotions to come. Especially after the baby is born.

I had a loss at 32 weeks & the dr suggested waiting 3 months. I’ve heard some recommend closer to six months for babies that are closer to full term, since that’s the time when the uterus expands the most. Holding space for you. ❤️

I'm so sorry McKensie. Sending you a big hug. Personally I would give your body at least a few months to heal and recooperate before getting pregnant again. I totally understand though, my sweet Koah was 40 weeks stillborn last year. At first I wanted to get pregnant immediately but after a little while I realized I needed some time. He would be 15 months old now and I'm finally ready. Sending you lots of love. Your baby's life was meaningful and important. I'm so so sorry you have to go through this

I had a loss in September 2023 at 18 weeks and I really wanted to be pregnant again straight away. 4 weeks later after the loss I fell pregnant, I had my daughter in July and tomorrow is the 1 year anniversary of loosing our son. Everyone told me it was too soon but I believe my daughter’s pregnancy saved me from going into a dark place! I couldn’t be happier even though I still grieve for my son I have my daughter to help me through that! I think only you know if it’s too soon, everyone copes differently. Xx

I lost my daughter at full term, she was born 7th August 2003. There was no reason for what happened. I was pregnant again 15 weeks later. My second daughter was born 12th July 2004. Mentally the pregnancy was difficult, I actually considered not carrying on with the pregnancy because of how scared I was of it happening again. Just make sure you are ready and lots of support for if you need it.

I am so deeply sorry for your loss. I lost my boy at 20 weeks on Christmas Day 2021, I too wanted to be pregnant again as I just felt empty and quite frankly wanted something in my life to give me meaning. I got pregnant again with 2 cycles but emotionally I probably wasn’t quite ready but I had 9 months to come to terms with what happened. It’s a very personal decision to try again so only you can answer that but there is no such thing as ‘too soon’ if you are ready. What was your baby called? x

my midwife did tell us to way 3 full period cycles before trying and also give time for uterus to heal / hormone levels to return to baseline.

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I lost my baby girl at five months gestation this July. I have a long painful road ahead of me as we all do/did, but I understand the urge to get pregnant again. Recuperate by taking the best vitamins (folic acid, vitamin d) for conception and then decide when you know what feels right for your body. I imagine that a recently pregnant body needs at least 2 months to start getting back on track, but everyone is different.

I’m sorry for your loss , I’ve lost my baby at 37w as well , we waited about 8 months before falling pregnant again xx

Personally, I would wait, it's too soon for several reasons. Firstly, you need to grieve for your baby boy properly, secondly your body needs to heal.

I am soo sorry for your loss. I lost my son in Dec 2021 at 39 weeks from still birth (there was a reason, basically my fault). It was awful but after about 6 weeks we decided to try and 6 months later I was pregnant and now I have my toddler. It's hard and everyone has there own time scale I wanted another one I needed my son he saved us from the grief that would of lasted a lot longer and pushed us into a happy time. It really just depends on if you are ready everyone is ready in their own time.

🫶🏻 sending love. He will always be your baby. No matter when or how many other ones you have 💓 Also idk where you are in Utah, but I’m in Nevada 👋🏻

@Candyce thank you so much for the lovely message, I’m sorry for your loss and congrats on your sweet rainbow baby! That’s what my support group says as well, there’s no safe time and we just have to hold our breath and watch for any signs…I’m going to learn to trust my body and speak up if I get pregnant again

@Jess the pathology report came back normal with him, the placenta and umbilical cord but I didn’t choose to do an autopsy. But your comment sparked something in me and I’m now asking for more answers because I think they misdiagnosed me early in my pregnancy and that could have screwed it up, so thank you.

@Aubrey thank you so much for your sweet message! I’m so sorry about your loss of sweet baby Koah, there is no pain like it and I hope that you get your rainbow baby 🤍

@Natasha thank you so much for your sweet message and verifying my feelings, congrats on your baby girl! I feel like trying again would help me heal and make me feel less incomplete and broken but I don’t want to screw up my grief process and go too fast and not be ready for the new child

@Gemma thank you for the sweet message and advice, that’s exactly how I feel and I am going through therapy to cope with the feelings of the next pregnancy and handling my anxiety. His name was Hunter Logan, thank you for asking…what about yours?

@Staci thank you for your sweet message and reminding me of that, most days I don’t feel like a mama and that hurts. I’m in Draper Ut 30 minutes from Salt Lake

@McKensie it’s such a hard decision to make but deep down I knew I wouldn’t be happy unless I had tried everything possible to get a reason for losing my perfect little boy. I’m so glad I did because pathology reports didn’t come back with anything but the autopsy report revealed that I have an auto immune condition that is only present during pregnancy. Thanks to that diagnosis I now have a healthy 3 month old. Wishing you the best of luck for the future and I hope you get answers you need to make your dreams come true

@McKensie I imagine when your next baby is born, you will feel a huge swell in your heart. Thinking about the sibling bond. Watching them grow and wondering what he would have been like too. I had two other children before my loss - thank God or it would’ve killed me - and it’s hard to look at family photos and only see the two. I love them with my life, but I also love my third child too. Even if he’s not here. 🫶🏻

I lost my baby son due to stillbirth in March 2024 and I was told a number of things to wait nothing, 3 months or 6 months. However I found out I'm pregnant again today! And although its the saddest pain you have to go through I have to keep strong for my new little one too! Xx so sorry for your loss, its the worst club to be a part of!