Failed marriage? Divorce in question

My husband and I are having a tough time going through a rough patch and are really close to call it quits because at this point we’re beating a dead horse (ik i hate that analogy) but idk why a little of my hesitation is that I would be the third sibling in my family to be divorced…it seems dumb like why should that even matter. I guess cuz my husband keeps throwing it in my face like “yea everyone in your family is getting divorced and now you’ll be the third.” Idk what Im even asking for I guess I just don’t want to feel bad for that anymore. I mean it’s just a fact so whatever but it keeps bothering me that wow we all have had failed marriages in my family. Btw my two other siblings are divorced because one was abused and the other got cheated on multiple times…so yea. Lost and confused

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I think what matters is your happiness 🤍 Your siblings just also happen to be divorced, has nothing to do with your own individual relationship. And if I’m being honest, it looks like it was a good thing they did divorce those horrible partners. Sending love 💕

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Well he’s going to be divorced too so it’s not just you. Reminds me of that country song “she let herself go.” Listen to it if you can stand country music haha, the guy was like good luck without me and she was like happier than ever without him.

You already know that staying in a bad marriage just so you don’t like your family divorce statistics is wrong. A good reason for trying to work it out is that there’s a lot of good in him and both of y’all want to try. If there isn’t a huge issue (physical or mental abuse, cheating, etc) and yall have exhausted all options like therapy then it might be best to divorce. It’s hard to say without knowing what the issues are and what type of guy he is.

Sorry you're going through a tough time. .. your feelings are normal. It's normal to compare our lives to siblings and even friends/ peers. I have two aunt and my mom who we're all three single mothers and I was worried I was fated to be a single parent too but I know that shit just happens. Millions of women are single parents. Millions of people get divorce, it's just something that happens a lot in life. Don't let his smack talk have any value, it's something in life that just happens. It's sad and we all wish it never happened to us but its life.. hope things work out for the best for you.