Would you be annoyed at this? Boyfriend liking thirst trap pics on Instagram

So when me and my boyfriend first got together 4 years back whilst I was at uni, he got very jealous and possessive over me. For example if another boy messaged me, or a boy I knew spoke to me when passing on the street or even if a guy looked at me he would get really mad and even angry at me for it. At the time he made me delete lots of guys off my Instagram, made me make my account private and change my profile picture as it looked too “sexy” and write his name on my bio. I did all this but then saw he was liking lots of pictures of half naked girls and told him he couldn’t do that either because the hypocrisy of it all. Anyway 4 years later, we have a little girl now and things like that don’t really play on my mind. I’m very loyal to him, he’s my partner and father of my child. On the occasional nights I go out with my girlfriends, I do get a few guys coming up to me trying to get to know me etc but I always turn them down and that I have a boyfriend, I don’t accept any follow request from guys who aren’t actual friends of mine and I don’t like or look at other guys online or in person. I believed he was doing that same, but last night he was showing me a video on Instagram and accidentally clicked on his explore page which was literally filled with basically porn. I then asked to see his likes and saves- and he has liked sooo many pictures of half naked girls or thirst trap pics - lots from girls he knows or used to get with in the past. Even girls he knows I feel insecure about as he dated them. I feel so upset and betrayed. To the point I don’t know if I can look at him the same. Also he hasn’t wanted to be intimate with me in months, and if I’m getting dressed or after a shower he doesn’t even look but he has the time of day for other girls apprently? Just makes me feel stupid when the guy I’m with doesn’t want me but I ignore other guys who actually do pay me the attention? How would you feel ladies in this situation? He’s a good dad to our little one but partner wise I’m just really stuck on how I feel

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I cannot handle porn. My husband knew that before we got married and I found out multiple times that he was watching it and to this day it brings my mood down. It makes me feel like I’m not enough ESPECIALLY during postpartum because I’m already feeling less than in that position too ya know? I would maybe try and sit down with him and talk things out ? Really let him know how you’ve been feeling but if he doesn’t reciprocate it then I PERSONALLY would post pictures you like or like the pfp issue^ try to make the first move maybe? I feel like men are so simple that if you make the first move for intimacy and he DOESNT act on it then maybe something’s going on? I’m not sure but it would and has definitely made me feel like crap

Your feelings are valid completely. My husband and I had this discussion before to about how we felt about each other doing it and we don’t do it at all unless it’s movie stars or celebrities which we don’t care about but local girls or exs absolutely not ! You should not have exs on social media at all. Talk to him explain how it’s not right for him to do that and how would he feel if he was in your shoes and you were doing that. Ask him questions is he still attracted to you exc tell him how it makes you feel everything you said on here communication will be your best help

Yes what she said men don’t always want to make the first move and sometimes they’re very hard headed maybe try making a move spicing things up tell him how great he looks flirting with him everyday if that doesn’t want talk to him about how u feel and if there’s any way you guys can fix the situation or come up with a plan

I went through this too. 2 years ago my husband was texting/liking/saving other women and I got sick of it. He was alot addicted to porn and watched it every day. It got to a point that I said if you wanna like these girls, ima post like them. He didn't like that but continued his bullshit so I got fed up and said he has to choose between online or in-person. If he wanted to keep his family then the bs had to stop. And sure enough it did. He got rid of everyone and off social media. He just got tiktok back and realized just how bad it was and kept saying sorry. So my advice to set that boundary and if he crosses it leave him. Ik it sucks and it's hard but if he can't respect you as a partner then you will be trapped in a loveless marriage. listen to your gut and don't let him trick you into staying especially when he is showing you what he brings to the table