Have you already had another baby?

Due with my second 14th November

This is a bit excluding for others who have more than 1 child? Does it make a difference if you only have 1?

First born Jan 23 🩷 Second baby born June 24 💙

@Anika same but boy first then girl ☺️

@Gemma it's just because I had my first in January, 2023. We don't know if we want another or not yet or what age gap etc, so just interested to hear off people who had their first the same time as me whether they've already had another, are having another, definitely want another or already feel like they don't want another! Because I feel like going from 1 eg only child to 2 eg siblings is a big thing that happens between 1 to 2 so just wondering what other people's situations are with making that transition! Not trying to excluding just reaching out to people in this group who had their first in Jan, 23 like me!

Well I would say that people with more than 1 could also advise on age gaps and sibling relationships 🤷‍♀️

We are currently trying for our second!

Had my second in August x

@Gemma think it’s more to do with age gaps lovely x

@Gemma I'm not saying they couldn't. But I just wanted to ask ro women specifically who started out in the same situation/timing as me for this question and I don't think there's anything wrong with me reaching out and asking a question to women in the group that just fall under this category if I want to?

1st baby born 1st jan and 2nd baby just turned 6 months today😊 0-1 was the hardest thing I’ve ever done😂 whereas 1-2, was so much easier x

@Jay I understand that but surely anyone with children whether it be 1 or 10 could help answer that 🤔

@Gemma I think they wanted advice from someone who’s only experienced being a mum for 20ish months on their timelines and thoughts as that’s what their situation is.. not someone who has a 24 year old and a new 1 year old.. your situation is rather different to the posters - not that your experience isn’t worth sharing but they are asking about people in the same situation as them

@Gemma how did you deal with having a baby after such a big age gap? My aunt says it was really hard she has 10 years between hers

@Teonie honestly is was great. Don't get me wrong I was shattered for the first couple of weeks but I think that was more because I was older 🙈 the older kids were great with him and would help out if I was trying to get stuff done in the house or if I wanted to go out to the cinema or for a meal. I have since had another in August ❤️

@Brooke yeah I have a 24yo and also had my 2nd 12 months later. I had a 3rd 5years after that then had a 17year age gap then had my jan 23 baby and have just had another in August this year so maybe not so different...

I had my daughter Jan 7th 23 and my son Sep 9th, currently in the newborn trenches with him but watching my little girl become so loving and helping with her brother is one of the sweetest things I have ever whitenessd tbh, it’s hard work and I’m extremely tired 🤣 but the jump from 1 to 2 children has been SO much easier than 0 to 1 even with them being 2 under 2 xx

This is making me so broody😂

Just got 5 weeks to go! 🥰

I have a Jan 23 Girl and had another girlie at the end of August 24. Absolutely love the gap xx

Had a son in October 2019 (he is ADHD and Autistic) so didn’t want another but caught with my daughter who was born in January 2023 and then in April 2024 I was blessed with another son. It all happens for a reason and I wouldn’t change it for the world x

Still unsure, tbh. We don't have support as we're both from other countries, but also because I love my job but I'm in a precarious position. I do know that I would never have them close together, tho. I get the reasoning behind it, and it makes sense, but I'd rather enjoy my first born and then later also enjoy the second one. I could not cope with the stress and exhaustion of 2 under 3. Also, my brother and I and all siblings on my family are almost 4years apart but close knit... Personal experience always shapes our choices. Anyway, I think we would have a second in a year or two but only if my job was made permanent or if I had to switch careers (I'm an academic, the outlook is grim). Otherwise, I'm not taking myself out of the game and feel resentful for it. I'm cool with having just 1. So yeah, not a helpful response 😂😂

We’re waiting til our son is around 2.5/3 before trying again x

My daughter was born in Jan 23 and I am now 7 months pregnant, due in December. We didn’t put a lot of planning into it, but I’m delighted with the way it’s turned out. I always thought I’d be happy with one (which I was) but when I see how my daughter responds to babies, I’m excited to see her with her own little brother/sister. Everyone’s journey is different. This feels very fateful for me and I’m an older mum too, so I guess I didn’t feel I had as much time to wait either. I’m sure what is meant to happen, will at the right time x

Nah I’m done. That was my 2nd child I have a 5 year old as well