Triage

Unfortunately you do just get nurses/midwife’s like that. For the most part they’re happy to see you and have no issues giving reassurance but like anything, there are always bad apples. I had a bad experience with someone I seen with my daughter, I got her on the phone and she was so rude. Totally didn’t listen to what I was saying and told me no need to go in. I was crying on the phone and insisted I went in. It was then her that seen me and it was the same horrible experience in person. I actually went to my midwife the next day because I wasn’t listened to etc. My midwife apologised so much for that experience and said I was right to ask for a second opinion and it should’ve never gone that way x

Sorry you had a poor experience, unfortunately it can be hit & miss but usually with reduced movement they never make you feel silly for coming in so would say the experiences you’ve had previous and more what you’d expect. Please don’t let the experience last night discourage you from going back if you need. 1, you’ll have someone different next time and the experience should be as usual. 2, yes you are right in the borderline but from now on, movement is the biggest indicator on babies health. Have you heard of Kicks Count? Go to their insta page, that might help to encourage you again and the you did do the right thing. You are the best judge of your baby.

Thank you both! It just made me feel so silly, which I’ve never felt before after going! While I was there baby kicked the Doppler and she said “as if you’ve not felt THAT all day” and rolled her eyes. I was so glad I had my partner with me, as I almost cried I felt so daft😭 You’re both right, that’s not the normal experience and I won’t let it put me off in future. I’d rather be safe than sorry!

Sorry you've experienced this ☹️ Only you know your baby best & if you're concerned, you should absolutely go in! Hopefully this experience doesn't impact you wanting to go in the future, but if you find yourself in a similar situation again, I would definitely suggest raising it with PALS. X

😮😮 i can’t believe she said that! You could always request to not see her if you have to go in again. I changed midwife as i didn’t find mine helpful at all and no questions were asked, they immediately did it. We’re told to always go in if reduced movements and then they act like that… awful! Please don’t be put off going in again, your baby is important and some awful midwife’s comments shouldn’t stop you xx

Just hopping on this as currently in assessment unit, now being kicked the living daylights out of but the midwives are adamant that it’s really the only way we have of telling how things are, I’m really sorry you got such a difficult and judgy midwife, makes things so hard doesn’t it? Definitely be confident in checking whenever you need to, I think the majority of midwives would much rather you checked than didn’t.

The scan following numerous RFM is standard practice but that doesn’t explain or condone her rudeness. I had 3 episodes and was referred for a scan in my first pregnancy around this gestation. Typically by the time you get seen and you’ve tried all the tricks baby starts dancing and it’s just part of the experience. I think the Doppler sets em off!!