Pregnant again and nervous

I don’t have a 17 month gap, I have a 23 month gap between mine but we actually had twins so I felt the exact same emotions as you. I felt really guilty that I wasn’t just changing my little boys life with one baby I was changing it with two! Yeah some days are hard but I love their bond and watching my eldest being a big brother is amazing 🫶🏻 your little one won’t know any different after a couple days when the new addition has settled in, just involve them as much as possible throughout the pregnancy so they understand 🥰 my little boy would kiss my bump good night and would ask to put his head on my tummy all the time 🥰 it’ll be great hun you’ve got this xx

My two have a 17 month gap and I love it. Yes some days are really difficult and draining especially when they both need you. But I wouldn't change it. In fact I'm eager to get another one in soon haha And my first was a c-section, second a VBAC. If you want a vaginal birth go for it! You do not need another c-section, but I don't know your circumstances... Very happy to chat if you want, whether about age gap, birth stuff or whatever :)

@Amelia thank you so much that’s really reassured me, i think I’ve just been having a bit of a wobble, probably hormone related. You are amazing juggling 3 little ones!

Coming in from a different angle here… I myself am the January baby in this situation and my little brother is 17 months younger than me and growing up it was the best age gap ever. We were into similar things and could play together etc. My parents said it was hard at times but they were 2 and done so doing all the hard bits like night wakings, potty training etc not far apart they said really helped them (knowing it wasn’t going to go on for years and years!). Hope this helps because as someone with a 17 month age gap with their sibling, it is bloody brilliant and it has made me want a closer gap for my own daughter and her future sibling🥰

I'm currently 29 weeks pregnant with a 10 month old so a super close age gap and I get mum guilt all the time about feeling like she's going to miss out if I have to sort her baby brother out but I'm giving her a best friend and play buddy, they will grow up together and have the best bond! X

Saying that, I have an 11.5 month age gap with my older brother and I'm a twin. My mom has told me that there were days were there was a lot of mom guilt going on, but you all acknowledge it and move on. Some days it is literally just about getting through until bed time. Can't afford playing and laughing and spending quality time with either of them. You spend a lot of the day crying or angry, snappy and just exhausted physically, emotionally and spiritually. And then other days everything goes so smoothly, naps and timed perfectly, every one is in a good mood, food is ready, clothes are washed, kids join in with tidying, SHOWERS ARE DONE - pure blissful heaven. Just take each day as it comes.

I would say worry about the two babies situation when the time comes. For now enjoy doing things with one baby cause everything gets more complicated after. Go for lunch with baby, ride the bus with baby, park, travel (!!!!), go swimming, zoo, Aquarium, everything and anything. Enjoy being free to move and only have to think about one more creature.

congratulations! i am currently almost 25w pregnant and will have a 13m age gap, complete surprise and took me a while to wrap my head around it all but i now wouldn’t change it for the world! everyone’s told me so many benefits, my first baby won’t ever remember having mummy and daddy to herself all she’ll ever know is sharing with her sister, she’ll always have someone to play with, we won’t necessarily feel like we’re “starting over” only continuing all are obviously in an ideal world but i think i’m preferring a smaller age gap rather than a longer one the more i think of it, best of luck and if you want to message me you’re more than welcome too💛x