Second pregnancy

I’m in the same boat, but then I remember growing up with all my siblings and having friends for life and I know it’s going to be like this for my little boy 🥰💙xx

@Ellie ahh that’s so true! I didn’t grow up with siblings but you’re so right 🥰 x

I have never really had guilt over this thing.. only because it’s just life and the older sibling will honestly love and thrive with the baby. My eldest wasn’t even 2yrs when I had my second.. and I look back and see how much of a baby he still was. I’ve now had my third, and we have gone through all the changes again as my middle daughter was very clingy with me.But they enjoy this time with the baby soo much too. Make sure you give plenty of kisses and lots of cuddles. They will also change/grow when baby arrives, but just go with the flow. Your heart will grow even more then you ever thought once bubs here 🥰

Totally normal feeling! I felt the same. But I promise it’s the most magical beautiful thing ever. At first, it takes time to find your new routine and adjust to things for the whole family, But you will, and so will your first boy. And once baby is old enough to communicate and play, it’s honestly just like you’ve given them a best friend for life. It’s so so lovely. So try not to feel bad! I look at both of my boys now and just think how lucky they are to have one another. They adore each other so much and my heart bursts! And I’m sure you’ll experience the same too! My top tip for when new baby is born is just to make sure you take time out to have 1:1 time with your eldest and spend time together away from the baby too! Wishing you all the luck!

I felt exactly this. Involve them in nappy changes, make them feel really important in helping with baby. I also say things to baby like "you're so lucky because you have such a great sibling" etc. When baby arrives and sibling meeting them, I didn't hold the baby, so that me and older child could cuddle and introduce that way, so they don't feel left out etc if that makes sense. Their bond so is lovely.. xx

The guilt is real, I had my second 5 months ago. And I had a high-risk pregnancy so wasnt really able to do things with my toddler I felt guilt like no other. Thankfully my husband is a very present hands on dad so he took over where I couldn't so he didn't feel ignored. But no one prepares you for that turning point when they're upset and they ask for dad instead. It must have been the pregnancy hormones that made the emotions escalate but I sobbed, I sobbed so much saying to my husband that "my baby no longer needs me" which of course wasn't and isn't true. It's a really difficult part of life that no one prepares you for or even talks about. But remember, you're completing your family, filling his life with happy memories he will make with his Sibling. And he won't remember the time you couldn't play because you felt too sick. You're doing great.

In the same boat ❤️ first will be 21 months when our second is born. I don’t know what age gap you’re working with but my sister and I were 18 months apart and neither of us can remember life without each other.

I have 3 under 3 - that feeling of mum guilt is so natural, and it’s clear you’re already an amazing mama just by how much you care. Trust me, having more than one little one truly fills your home with a new kind of magic that only grows with each child. Your firstborn isn’t “losing” a part of you, they’re gaining a lifelong friend, someone who will fill your home with double the laughter, cuteness, and shared moments. I find there’s a gentle ease that comes with it too, before you know it they’re learning off each other, and doing everything and anything together, giving you more time to focus on things you want/need to do. A new little babe only deepens the love that already surrounds you, and before you know it, you’ll wonder how you ever lived without your little family 🤍 All three of mine were unplanned, but God sure knew what He was doing, I can’t thank Him and all praises are for Him! 🤍

I wouldn’t say I feel guilt. I feel sad. Sad of what I’m loosing with my son. He’s the center of my whole world and that’s about to shift. I’m sad that he doesn’t fully understand what’s about to happen. He’s 26 months. He knows there’s a baby in there and what a baby is. But he’s lacking the understanding. I’m sad this baby won’t get the same time and attention my oldest did. I didn’t anticipate these feelings. And while im getting older, I wish we would have waited a little to help my oldest understand better. But, I know everything will be fine and we’ll all adjust to our new normal. Im glad im giving him a sibling. I was devastated at the thought of that possibly not happening (yay infertility), so I know this is right.

I only have one baby rn, but as the oldest sibling, being an older sibling is the best! I can never remember a single time I’ve felt left out or like my little brother had more attention than me. I just remember having my own little best friend to grow up with and to force into princess dresses (no matter how much he hated it). My little brother has always been and will always be my best friend and I couldn’t imagine my life without him! We have a 2 year age gap and are still super close now. You’re giving your boy a bestie for life 🫶🏻

Thank you all so much! Reading all of your responses made me cry but fills me with so much positivity!! 🤍🤍🤍

I felt guilty throughout my second pregnancy but the moment my daughter met her little brother, everything just melted away 💜💙