How to deal with a husband addicted to video games and phone?

He says it’s a coping mechanism but it’s clearly an addiction, his priority is call of duty and not us. Also he always has to check his phone, sometimes we can be having a conversation and suddenly he is already on his phone watching YouTube videos, even when he is with the baby he is always on his phone. Obviously I already talked to him (a thousand times) and nothing has changed, any advice on how to deal with this or what to do?

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@Michelle does he accept it’s an addiction? Also, how a video game can be more important than your family? I don’t understand

coping mechanism for what though?

@Michelle but then they never stop 😒

@Sarah to deal with all the stress of having an adorable baby and have to work… basically being an adult 🙄

Only drastic action can get drastic results. Talking to him to change is like convincing a baby to stop crying when they are hungry, it will never yield results.

Until someone knows what is at stake or what they have to lose they will remain in their comfort zone. What you permit will continue. He is a grown man that needs to take responsibility of his family and in the home.

I’m married to a gamer and I’m a gamer myself. My husband plays video games to escape reality and to decompress. I used to have issues and felt he didn’t help around enough until I communicated that with him. He’s gotten better and learned how to balance things out. We’re soon gonna be a family of 4 (pregnant with baby #2 due in December). He’s not always on his phone either. If we’re having family time, or eating dinner together, we sit down as a family and watch a movie/tv show. When he’s in the kitchen by himself, snacking on something, he always have to watch something. I think it’s his ADHD too. He’d watch TikTok videos (we send each other TikTok videos) and/or watch YouTube videos . He always checks in with me and our son to see if we’re doing okay and if we need anything. I’m having some pregnancy cravings right now and he’s gonna walk to the corner store to get my cravings. I believe it’s just learning how to balance things out and be there for your family too.

My other half is exactly the same, but it is a coping mechanism due to his autism. Speak to him and set boundaries about what is and isn’t acceptable (I.e. not being on phone with baby in arms etc.)

@Alexa Barrett I think I already did everything I can do, I even left him and the house but my living situation is complicated so I had to comeback

@s a r a 🥀 I already communicated this too many times and I already put rules like, no phone while we eat or when he takes care of the baby, but unfortunately nothing works and I have to remind it to him every day, I’m mentally exhausted

@Becky I already set boundaries but didn’t work, he keeps doing it, I know it’s a lack of respect and many other things, I keep fighting and talking to him hoping one day it’s gonna get better but I’m starting to give up